why would they try to destroy you by lying to others?
why would they try to destroy you by lying to others?
Thank you everyone for your incredible support on my first post (about "blank eyes").
My ex-husband has been spreading horrible rumors about me perhaps for months before he left. He started telling people about "our problems" before I knew we had any. Then walked out and divorced me 3 months ago (saying we just couldn't work it out; I still do not know what IT is. He told people I did not want a baby while I told him that I did?? Again, I remain stunned and feel like the past 5 years of perfection never existed.
But the really insane thing is that, since the divorce (I left the country we were living in in Europe and moved back to NYC) he has started telling his co-workers (one of whom is a friend) that I beat him!!! The truth is that I hit his arm out of shock when he announced the divorce out of the blue while we were walking hand in hand in the middle of a busy street and then walked off without giving me a chance to say anything; I am half his size--how much damage could that do??. He has told his boss that he is physically scared of me, yet I am a petite woman who did nothing but love him and I am the one who left the country immediately after the divorce because I could not bear to be in the same place as him owing to the shock of it all! And he moved out of our home secretly one weekend while I was away, just before telling me he was leaving me--and I still do not now where he lives! He told is boss that I am stalking him when I no longer live on the same continent and all I have done is try to reach him on his cellphone but he has not taken my calls for two months.
Why would he slander me in this way? He simply refuses to have anything to do with me, but seems to be paranoid or just spinning lies to people to make me look like I am crazy. Is this because I told him that I knew in my heart that he left me because he is sick? What made me suspect this is both the blank eyes as well as the fact that he would often repeat things that I told him verbatim, without "thinking" or "analyzing" and I wondered why he did this.
I am now committed to going NC, but I just do not understand any of this. Why would someone do such things? Are they incapable of thinking for themselves and just copy people? Is he psychotic and thinks that I am out to get him? Is he trying to destroy me because I did not just "go away quietly" but, instead, kept calling him for an explanation?
Passing the blame
yes, yes and yes!
They all do it. Their so
Ending the dance
Because...
answer
Why they do it!
Nevergoback
leah....same here
Aceonelady
Leah