Why do they resurface when they have what they want?

my previous exN txtd me 8 weeks to the day after I drove away from him and his years of lying. I didn't know then what I know now. I believed he was sorry, and loved me. Uhm no... The 2wks that followed were an intensified, accelerated replay of the previous 4 years. What a total arse he is. Thing is, with exCop, I really don't believe he'll be back. I mentioned on here that i'd accidentally sent him an innocuous txt weeks ago meant for a dive buddy and followed it up with a 'oops bugger not meant for you. It's L, how are you'. No response. Either i didn't seem distraught enough and therefore am no longer potential supply. Or, he does genuinely 'class me as a boiler' (proposterous as it is) in his twisted limbic brain and therefore am to be avoided at all cost. Win win for me. Hope i'm right. Possible?

since they believe everyone is an object - they will ALWAYS consider you as property. If they think there's a smidgen of supply left for them in you they will return -- days, weeks, months or YEARS later (Psycho-Boy found me again after 27 years!!). Yes. You will ALWAYS have to be vigilant because he really believes he's ENTITLED to your time and attention. You may have to take out a Restraining Order and get it renewed. ADT Alarms offers FREE alarm systems to those with R.O.s and other legal orders in place, in certain areas: http://www.adt.com/about_adt/adt_in_our_communities/aware/ If you are eligible get an alarm. - Get yourself Lisa's book. Link on right. - PLEASE scroll through ALL the pages on 'Message Board' as I have loaded it with articles and your questions have probably already been asked and answered many many times. Click through the pages and read what interests you. You'll get up to speed and learn a LOT. - read our blog: http://allabouthim.com - chock full of articles about Ns and healing - listen to our free radio show: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/allabout him And welcome. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.

Many of us are told and talk about their self of entitlement. People are to them objects and possessions much like your television and personal automobile. So these objects you feel a sense of entitlement don’t you? Look at it like this, if you own a dog and gave it away but later wanted to see the dog again you would just ask the new owner and of course go see your dog. You will talk about all the good times you had together with the animal and how it was when it was a puppy. We as people never truly let go of our possessions even if we give them away. We never really lose a sense of entitlement to those objects. Well, this is how it works with a pathological person. They see us and everyone like an object and they feel a sense of entitlement to that possession. Let’s go back to the dog we gave away again okay? When we start to miss the dog we want to see the animal and see how it’s doing. So we make contact again (if we can) with the dog. Now the dog wasn’t missing us even through it might be happy to see us, no we missed the dog. Now it may not be fair to see the dog again and then leave and not visit for a long time or never. So we might not try to make contact again, why? Because we feel empathy for the animal. But pathological people feel no empathy for anyone but themselves. They don’t care if it upsets us when they try to make contact again. In their minds you are still their object, their possession and they have a right, an entitlement to treat their objects anyway they want. Also pathological people never and I mean never gave anyone closure and have a sense of entitlement to that “old supply” which is you. Because they are *people of the lie, and their ability to “rewrite” history they “forget” the good old days (just joking here) and believe you will too. They forget the emotional and/or psychological harm they did to you and that’s if (and most don’t) they even acknowledge it. So to answer your question as to why? Because you are nothing more then a old supply in need of again... and You belong to them and as they see it always will be! Sucks being a toaster doesn’t it? *People of the Lie, Peck http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/M._Scott_Peck http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/