Why Do So Many Smoke the Green Stuff?

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#1 May 9 - 1AM
neveragain5
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Why Do So Many Smoke the Green Stuff?

Anybody else's N's smoke marijuana? What's up with that?

May 10 - 5PM
quietude (not verified)
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speaking of weed...

Off topic here, but N's ARE like nasty weeds you just CAN'T get rid of sometimes. Ex-N actually e-mailed me from a different account today to tell me happy birthday...it was last week. WTF, he sent me some BS nonsensical e-mail in the beginning of the year too. Guess they have to poke you with a stick to see if their back-up supply is still breathing just in case...for crow's sakes! I don't think his GF would be too happy he's writing me... Two good N lessons here: *N's think they own you, and can contact you at any time *The OW is NOT better off, as is said here over and over. No matter what he's telling her, he still thinks it's okay to try to contact me.
May 11 - 7AM (Reply to #24)
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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they NEVER go away......

they just do not go away....they keep popping up...sometimes years later.....at least i now know the psycho won't be popping up.....no...i take that back..... i'm not sure at all...... when we desperately WANTED contact with them..they were always UNAVAILABLE....we're fed up with them...and they go to the trouble of inventing new email addresses just to drop us a line!!...SICK PIECES OF SHIT.......
May 11 - 8AM (Reply to #25)
quietude (not verified)
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narcnarc

You hit the nail on the head, totally true...how much time did we spend working so hard to make the relationship work?? The ignoring, the silent treatment, us begging for communication. All the effort, blood, sweat, and LOTS of tears. To them it was all very HO-HUM, an experiment in human sufferage, like a sick little hobby. But when we make a stand, or are not available, suddenly, we are the most interesting thing around. Oh how the tides have turned. Yep, big old P.O.S!!
May 10 - 5PM (Reply to #22)
Barbara (not verified)
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quietude

do you know her email? forward this nonsense to her then BLOCK this new email... LOL ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 11 - 6AM (Reply to #23)
quietude (not verified)
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lol

Admittedly, I don't have the huevos to go there. I think the trouble he could potentially cause me wouldn't be worth it. I'm really enjoying the 'lack' of drama in my life right now! She has had many opportunities to get that he's an a-hole, but she's so deeply brainwashed, it would take a miracle for her to make any kind of move. What is that term, 'willfully ignorant'? E-mails like this are annoying, but not upsetting. If he tries to screw with my life in any way, then ya...I may suddenly grow that set of huevos! :)
May 9 - 11PM
broken23
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he did and then would say it

he did and then would say it will be legalized anyways for medicinal purposes so its okay (except hes just lazy). i think it just adds on to addictive personalities. he overdrank, smoked cigarettes, smoked weed, gambled, porn. he would call me a prude or lighten up. when i stood my ground on weed, gambling and porn...he just hid it. and continued to smoke and drink in front of me.
May 9 - 11PM (Reply to #20)
broken23
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oh yeah despite the fact i

oh yeah despite the fact i have asthma he would still smoke in the car and in the house and say "well i opened the window". ahhhhh. i get so angry thinking about the level of disrespect i have grown used to. what the hell happened to me???
May 9 - 7AM
narcnarcwhosthere (not verified)
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self medicating ....

i think a lot of them self medicate....the psycho of course preferred to medicate himself with 60 ounces of hot vodka a day......but he also liked pot....and meth...and cocaine...ad oxy...and amphetamines....and fexaril....and...and ...and....... they're all already numb...but i guess a little weed or booze just makes them more COFORTABLY numb......and so what it costs about 500 bucks a week to stay COMFORTABLE....they're WORTH it!!
May 9 - 12PM (Reply to #18)
neveragain5
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Yeah, dumping all the toxins

Yeah, dumping all the toxins in his body, but so health focused. Wouldn't drink tap water....hello?!!
May 9 - 7AM
TexN (not verified)
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Major Pothead

I think they smoke to escape reality of who & what they really are!
May 10 - 6AM (Reply to #16)
Barbara (not verified)
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texN

they could care less 'who they really are' they just like doing things that are borderline criminal they are also easily addicted to things. ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 9 - 4AM
bubbles
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Potheaded pigs!

My XN was very into dope/grass and marij in his late teen/early twenties and I remember him telling me he wouldnt get out of bed before "having a blast"... different story now though ( he's 50 )and like Scoop says.. my XN had a paranoia attack years back so bad he literally thought he'd gone to hell ( Even Old Nick wouldn't take him! LOL ) He was with a 'stoner'friend and swears that this guy started to change into The Devil, menacing eyes and red skin, horns... the works! ( I wonder if he was looking in the mirror lol ) But XN as a younger man also went with frieds to 'do shrooms' ( not the kind we eat ) and after his 'hellish' experience left the scene and his stoner friends behind to live a macrobiotic vegetarian no caffeine life... Thinking back and I'm 6 months NC after a 'blip last year and 1yr NC before that.. there was many a time I 'thought' he may be stoned..although I KNOW he wouldn't go near the stuff but his weird talk and mushy looks etc.. I remember him asking me if I could describe to him the sensation of taking a piss! ( PMSL ) 1 love Bubbles x
May 9 - 3AM
Scoop
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I have found the most

I have found the most annoying thing about people who smoke pot on a regular basis is they are incredibly smug and think they have it all worked out , life , love the universe is all nailed and understood by them and people who dont smoke pot couldnt possibly understand such enlightenment .It is in a way a new religion . Untill they get parinoid and think they are having a heart attack or something and then they never touch it again and all their "questions and answers " they may have come up with goes out the window and they come back down to the real world . Thats why a narc would smoke it because for a while at least it renforces how great they are .My wank stain narc smoked all the time towards the end , have you ever tryed to have a conversation with someone high on dope and is also a narc ?.. well it makes your head spin so much it makes you feel like you want to vomit . Scoop x
May 9 - 5PM (Reply to #13)
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N loved to smoke weed and oh

N loved to smoke weed and oh so smug, like you say scoop. Self medicating for certain. I have no problem with someone wanting to smoke some pot on occasion, IF there are no children around and they are not going to drive anywhere. But, um not so much with N - "I am going to smoke like a Jamaincan"... yeck. Seedy Peace. J

Peace. J

May 9 - 12PM (Reply to #2)
neveragain5
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When I was in college, I

When I was in college, I tried it and hated how lethargic it made me feel. My ex used to smoke every day several times a day. It was a huge point of contemption, because I hated how stupid he acted. This last one smoked too. I don't know how much because he wouldn't do it around me because he knew it bugged me. He was a drinker, did prescription meds and I know that a few years ago he was using cocaine. The attraction to the drugs... I don't get it and never saw the appeal. Scoop, what were the conversations like?
May 9 - 2PM (Reply to #11)
Scoop
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An exsample of conversations

An exsample of conversations with wank stain narc while he was stoned Him "what we should do with this house is take it down brick by brick and reasemble it on our own plot of land , it doesnt even have to be our own plot of land , we could squat the land and grow our own food and i could make a shed out of sustainable materials ( a further 30 mins or so on how he would make said shed ).... you know the trouble with you scoop is that through your own insecuritys you actualy create the bad feeling you have , what you need to do is ......(further 30 mins of how needy stupid ignorent i was blah blah "... and then he would say "you hungrey ? im humgrey lets get pizza , have you got any money ?" Scoop x
May 10 - 9PM (Reply to #12)
neveragain5
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Scoop

It sounds like he would ramble? Did he talk really fast and act like his brain was racing? I just wonder what it does to their brains, because their brains work differently.
May 9 - 2PM (Reply to #3)
Barbara (not verified)
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admission

I admit I smoked pot in college (the 70s) once I graduated I stopped completely because I am too responsible to have a job & be stoned. my late therapist told me, after extensive interviews that she was convinced that since I was not in therapy, etc in the 70s I was definitely self-medicating from the Narc, 2 sociopaths I dated as well as the severe depression from being raised by a NarcMother. It made sense because I was often suicidal and would smoke then. Now it has been recommended to me for my chronic severe pain issues. I refuse. Not around my children. No way. ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 9 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
neveragain5
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You're a strong and

You're a strong and determined lady, Barbara. Are their any meds that are given for chronic pain?
May 9 - 7PM (Reply to #5)
Barbara (not verified)
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chronic pain

yes except they make me loopy and I won't be loopy with 2 children to care for. I only take the meds (Oxycontin) on weekends and sleep hours and hours. Lately my thigh muscles are in CONSTANT spasm... the pain is intense. I put a muscle rub on them at night but the relief is minor. Lyrica makes me soooo ill - I get really pissed off at the commercials that show women WORKING... like its some miracle drug... NOT! thanks all you pathologicals in my life... I am still paying the price for your moral insanity. ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 9 - 8PM (Reply to #6)
neveragain5
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Babara

All I can say is that anybody that can live through all of that, still put their children first and can take the time and resolve to give back to those that are going through this N nightmare, is inspirational. Happy Mother's Day Barbara!
May 9 - 8PM (Reply to #7)
Barbara (not verified)
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thanks

inspirational or plain ole' crazy... LOL I wouldn't wish my past or current state on anyone... ever ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 9 - 10PM (Reply to #8)
Susan32
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I'd wish your current state on my ex-N

After how heartless my ex-N treated me, I'd looove to see him suffer SOMETHING! He always complained about health problems... I doubt he'll have cardiac issues, since he has no heart...
May 9 - 10PM (Reply to #9)
Barbara (not verified)
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they do not suffer

they can't feel and would only use it to get attention... not worth it ~~~~~~~~~ Moving Forward: Coaching for Victims Pathologicals Feelings buried alive never die. - Alice Miller
May 9 - 11PM (Reply to #10)
Susan32
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Yeah, I'd ignore him anyhow

My ex-N faked pain before... so why would I be dumb enough to believe it?