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Why DIDNT I SEE THE SIGNS!!?!?

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#1 Oct 15 - 6AM
ssm
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Why DIDNT I SEE THE SIGNS!!?!?

One time my dirty little spoiled brat NP, said he would see the world and everything was an object, like a backdrop to a movie. All the trees, the sky, the birds ..and the PEOPLE!??!? PEOPLE ARE OBJECTS?? I sat very confused at that, and I swear if that doesnt scream NPD, I dont know what does...but I was in his trance.. Plus he was a very bad actor, no oscar for you buddy! Oh..I am so sick.
I am on day 6 of barely sleeping, I cant understand for the life of me, why i am not sleeping? I am quite happy he is gone, but disgusted. Is this a form of PTSD? I dont get it?

Love and happiness to US ALL !!

MAY WE PREVAIL against these broken souls!!

Oct 15 - 5PM
dulcinea441
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I'm pretty sure all of us

I'm pretty sure all of us ignored or rationalized the giant red flags flapping right in our faces in the beginning. The exhilarating and intoxicating early days with a Narc made us overlook the warning signs. Don't feel bad about it, we all had those moments of "WTF?" that we swept under the rug.
Oct 15 - 12PM
Hunter
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Day 6 .. keep the buzz

Day 6 .. keep the buzz alive.. Get to your Doctor... Yuu dumed a Narc.. That's why you cant sleep.. Let the Doctor evalute your situation. Hunter
Oct 15 - 5PM (Reply to #9)
ssm
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:) Hunter!

HAHHAH! I am scared of meds, but if this keeps up. I will have to go to that doctor. Say, what did you mean that I dummed a narc?...I feel pretty dumb myself. LOL! ;)
Oct 15 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
ssm
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I duumed a narc?...What does

I duumed a narc?...What does that mean? I just feel DUMB! LOL
Oct 15 - 5PM (Reply to #7)
Journey
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It means Hunter is having

It means Hunter is having trouble typing is all!! LOL You are NOT dumb!

Journey on...

Oct 15 - 5PM (Reply to #8)
ssm
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DUM DUM DUM

HAHHAHA, sorry for posting that twice, seems my PC is having trouble today! No we are strong beautiful souls, that CANT be broken!! I send healing loving thoughts to you all.
Oct 15 - 8AM
indenial
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we see the signs

But we don't know what the signs mean until its too late ! We know they are signs of something not being quite real but unless we are educated on pathological people we don't know that they are signs of something truly sinister. I get stuck on this one quite a lot because I saw so many signs that even though I didn't know they were signs of narcisssim because I didn't know what it is. I knew they were signs that this man wasn't a keeper. He just didn't seem to be real. A crap actor too. I actually used to feel quite embarrassed by some of his over the top displays of love and I remember our first night feeling weird and thinking he's very intense. But eventually that was to be my downfall because I began to be addicted to his intense "passion" for me. Its such a weird and terrifying experience ! I used to and still do look at him and actually just feel really sorry for him because I could see that he didn't really fit and was trying so hard. I still mourn for those little glimmers of that sweet man. Sadly he wasn't real. I felt so needed wanted and loved but then it all changed
Oct 15 - 5PM (Reply to #4)
ssm
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I remember the night..

that I would lay there in bed and feel like I was sleeping next to psychopath! I would literally get nervous, and feel sick next to him. I knew something was dark, missing inside this shell of a person. I ended up just telling myself that I was imaging things, its so weird how we can not listen to our guts while they are screaming at us. I think I ended up this way too, because I never even heard of NPD, I had some faulty relationships in the past, but NOTHING like this. I wish he was just some dude that cheated, or all the NORMAL shit. This is by far the biggest trip of my life! I feel like I was in a bad movie, with a terrible actor. I finally slept like 5 hours last night, that was an acomplishment! YAY FOR SMALL VICTORIES!! Thank you everyone XXOO
Oct 15 - 5PM (Reply to #3)
ssm
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I remember the night...

I too felt he was SOOOO passionate, intense, I couldnt sleep next to him because something felt just so odd! I almost felt like I was sleeping next to a psychopath! But, I would just lay there and tell myself I was imagining things. Its so weird how we are able to doubt our own perception and intuition. Never again will I doubt that nagging feeling in my gut. i ended up like this , I believe because I didnt know what the hell NPD even was. Its really scary to think that there are that SICK of people out there. I slept 5 hours last night, that was an accomplishment!! YAY! :) Thanks everyone!!
Oct 15 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Daisyd
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Signs

That was the same for me too Indenial. I knew, my gut was in fact telling me to RUN and I ignored it because we all get addicted to that intensity. It becomes a RUSH in the romance stage that someone could 'feel' like that towards us. They are indeed bad actors. That's funny you said that because mine use to tell me that this is what his father use to call him, a bad actor. Crazy