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#1 Jan 2 - 11AM
whskywmn5
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Why did he come into my life

Why did my Narc come into my life, who's to know the answer to that question...I do know that I will never be the woman I was before he came into my life, I will be much stronger and wiser for the experience! So maybe that was his purpose in my life, showing me that I could be stronger than I ever thought I could be. I look forward the my inner strenght to emerge more and more as this year of recovery moves forward. Heres to a new year and new beginnings!

Jan 2 - 4PM
Goldie
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Now we're getting it!!!

Thank you Whsky, empowering, honest, insightful post. Exactly what I came to realize. God bless, Goldie
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #18)
whskywmn5
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Thank you Goldie

Its seems like a lifetime in the coming but yes I finally am getting it. All the woman women and men here have been a great inspiration to me in my journay.
Jan 2 - 3PM
HardToBelieve
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I started thinking about this

I started thinking about this recently. At first I was blaming myself for what happened then I started looking at it from a positive perspective. Maybe this was a wakeup call, a warning, an epiphany. Had I not met him.. who knows, maybe I would have met someone worse who would have done worse things to me? You just never know. My ex-narc gave me the benefits of discovering and knowing the warning-signs. Im thankful for that. Next time I know what to look out for when I meet someone. And I know my limits alot better too.
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #16)
whskywmn5
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I guess its a question

I guess its a question that we all ask ourselves on this journey, maybe others dont realize everyone is having the same thoughts until someone brings the matter up in the form of a post on the forum. Lol I suppose mine could have prevented me from meeting someone worse than him, but I would hate to believe in my heart there are others any worse than him....but reading the post here I know there are.
Jan 2 - 5PM (Reply to #10)
Dee30
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hey

Hard to believe..i sent u a private message..did u get it?
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #15)
whskywmn5
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Lol

I need new glasses, thought the message was for me, until I reread what you typed.
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #13)
HardToBelieve
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Private message

I find it extremely hard to manuver this website. Where do I click to get the private messages?
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #14)
whskywmn5
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Hi

Hey there Hard to believe, you should be able to click on the side of the page where it says Home, once on that page scroll down toward bottom of page, on the right hand side you should see where it says messages, you click on that it takes you to another page where you should find your messages. Hope that helps
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #12)
whskywmn5
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Hi Dee,

I checked my messages and I dont see one there from you, lol maybe it got lost in the mail, it being the day after the holiday....send me a message anytime you want to, I work 2 jobs but ill respond as soon as I get it. Hugs, Maggie
Jan 2 - 7PM (Reply to #11)
whskywmn5
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I'll Check to see

I just got in from my second job of the day so havent had time to look and see if there is a message there, but I will just as soon as I respond to the posts here....thanks
Jan 2 - 5PM (Reply to #9)
Goldie
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Yes Hard to believe

Wakeup call is right. They taught us well. God bless, Goldie
Jan 2 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
GeorgiaGirl
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HardtoBelieve,

I'm right there with you - I've dated or been married to everything but a serial killer! I'm heeding my wake-up call and following the new path God is showing me...I believe my life depends on it!
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #8)
whskywmn5
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Good for you

We all need to heed the wake-up call and follow it away from this destructive relationship that we have been on. I hate that anyone else had to endure the same things I did, but I know each and everyone here has suffered at the hands of the N in there lives.
Jan 2 - 5PM (Reply to #7)
HardToBelieve
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Yes.

That's exactly how I felt. I feel like this was a wake-up call to stop flirting with random men and assume they are all genuine and serious. You simply never know. Had he not come in to my life only god knows if I would have bumbed into that serial killer and ended up in an alley... Now is the time to be cautious and really look after my wellbeing.
Jan 2 - 2PM
GeorgiaGirl
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Whsky,

he came to wake you up and either show you a path you were avoiding dealing with or a path you were intended to take that you never would have gone down if you were still with him. These narcs are our "life-changing moment". You have been given an amazing opportunity...continue to be strong, have courage and wisely move forward in to your brand new life!
Jan 2 - 8PM (Reply to #4)
whskywmn5
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Well he certainly did that

His wake up call was one that I definetly could have done without. And yes i do believe that, I have grown in alot of ways that I dont believe I ever would have, if this man havent come into my life. Im still struggling with all he put me thru, and probably will for along time to come, yet I do know that when im finally whole again, I will be a force to be reckoned with, not one that will allow some man to walk all over me ever again.
Jan 2 - 4PM (Reply to #3)
Goldie
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This is what I believe as well GG

Life changing, course altering, butt kicking, experience. God bless, Goldie
Jan 2 - 12PM
Sparrow
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EXACTLY! :)

EXACTLY! :)