The floozy my ex took up with after me is now proudly showing a picture of the two of them as her FB profile picture. His picture hasn't changed at all, nor has his relationship status from what I can see (I'm not able to view hers), so intellectually, I know that for all I know, she takes the relationship much more seriously than he does. On the other hand, I can't see him allowing her to plaster a picture of the two of them up for everyone to see if he wasn't serious about her, since I'd think that would put a damper on his creeping.
He made a big deal to me about not being ready to commit to anyone since he was still recovering from his divorce, yet here they are, less than a year later. It makes it very difficult for me to believe that he's a narcissist who will end up treating her badly, and very EASY for me to believe that he just didn't want to commit to me and she's different - they have more in common than he and I did (this is the truth), and she'll get the best of him.
Why do some narcissists marry? From what I can tell, mine is a plain old narcissist, not a sociopath as well, so it's not a matter of him wanting to appear "normal." And WHO do they marry? Is it the woman who will give him anything he wants and let him do his own thing? Is it someone nurturing and caring?
I would like to think that he left me because I wouldn't let him get away with stuff, and that he's with her because she does. Yet I never played the jealous lover, no matter how hard he tried to push those buttons with me (and believe me, he TRIED!) and I can't see her NOT playing that. And she seems so proud to be with him. I guess I'm just having trouble seeing where the trouble in paradise might be. I was doing great until I saw the two of them together - I'd thought they split up a long time ago, but they're closer than ever. Could he really, truly be happy with her?