When you miss them...?

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#1 Aug 30 - 10AM
spective
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When you miss them...?

I have lists of all the horrible things that happened if I ever need a kick in the rear reminder but sometimes, lately, it isn't enough.

I'm in mourning. I miss the good parts, I miss the fantasy of who I thought he was, the one he created and I believed... I miss him sometimes and it's awful to admit in real life.

People don't get it, they think I ought to be so ecstatic to have him out of my life and out there dating and making friends and I don't know, being a shiny happy person now.

And sure, that's in my future. But I'm in a different place right now. Where I don't want to let go of the lies - I don't want to accept that it was pretty much all lies..

I think.. I don't know.

I'm reminded of him constantly; everywhere I go. Everytime I see the stuff around the house he has given our child on visits. Pretty much everywhere in the city, I'm faced with memories, both good and awful -- but he's on my mind and in my mind and I can't get him out. He doesn't deserve to be in there so much, but there he is.

How do you get them out of your mind???

Sep 14 - 5PM
Butterfly1313
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Not easy right now

Aug 30 - 8PM
spective
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These are Amazing Responses

Aug 30 - 5PM
Trixy
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Hey Spective

Aug 30 - 11AM
Hunter
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Do the Work

Aug 30 - 11AM
tooloyal
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I think about all the times

Aug 30 - 11AM
Goldie
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Most

Aug 30 - 11AM
Taralynn
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Yes there is the stabbing pain

Aug 30 - 11AM
Dallas
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Hi Spective...

Aug 30 - 10AM
spinning
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spective, dearheart, it's

spinning

Aug 30 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
spective
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Thanks

Aug 30 - 12PM (Reply to #9)
HappyToForget
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Spiral staircase

Aug 30 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
Fellforaclown
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Two Thoughts about obsessing...

Aug 30 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
fefe65
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I think what helps me is

Aug 30 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
spective
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Ok, so how do you KNOW? I

Aug 30 - 8PM (Reply to #8)
cargis33
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At first...

Aug 30 - 6PM (Reply to #7)
TruthbeginsToday
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Accepting that they exist and were ones we loved WAS HARD!

Aug 30 - 5PM (Reply to #6)
fefe65
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Sometimes our mind already