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When did you discover what NPD was?

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#1 Jan 3 - 9PM
Dee30
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When did you discover what NPD was?

I found out about 3 years ago when i was suffering from panic attacks after my xnarc husband was cheating on me while i was 5 months pregnant. I was actually reading about depression, then I discovered what anxiety was, browsing along, reading about bipolar (my sister has it) and then personality disorders.......Narcisstic Personality Disorder....while I was reading..a lightbulb went off in my head, my mouth was gaping open, my heart started pounded...I wasn't crazy this explained #1 my father and then my exhusband! Everythingg i read about..It was THEM not me..i knew something was wrong i just didnt know what.

Jan 4 - 7AM
janemarie
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His ex girlfriend told me to

His ex girlfriend told me to look it up....I did...I was shocked with the similarities i saw but ignored them. He told me that he was accused of being a Narc but that was because THOSE PEOPLE didnt understand him like I did!!! I was empathetic to him....he sucked me in like a vampire!! Fool I was!!! WAS...the key word in that phrase:)
Jan 4 - 6AM
onwithmylife
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For Me

it was reading on the internet and got Sam Vainins book and kept reading it. i knew something was wrong but trying to research what it was.........
Jan 4 - 4AM
bgirl
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I discovered it whe I was

I discovered it whe I was discarded, rejected, dumped and at the depths of despair. I was depressed, suffering terrible PTS and I finally went to a therapist. This is when she said...Narcissist. enough said...:/
Jan 3 - 11PM
Run4it
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In the past 2 months

I was reading articles in August to help me deal with the craziness in my relationship and came upon "Baggage Reclaim" which promoted NC. I thought my guy was just "emotionally unavailable" as his ex wife had indicated that to mutual friends, along with the "controlling" issues. Once I came upon the indicators for NPD it was BINGO and the truth of what had happened to me came rushing in like a tsunami. Everything began to make sense or, as much sense as you can make out of an insane relationship!
Jan 3 - 10PM
freaked
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Dee, this is a good thought provoker

Dee, I discovered that there is a thing called npd this year in March. It happened after I decided to open nh's laptop and thereby a trash can full of garbage. porn, prostitutes, ex gfs, present gf, lurid intimate photos...ugh.. then my kid advised me to STAY QUIET and NOT Confront the man as by then we had years of experience of his blatant lying. Whole of the previous year the nh had been torturing us, kicking the kid with shoes on, thrashing kid, and openly displaying every indicator of a torried xtra mar affair. I did question him on it a few months prior , but was stonewalled. Then... i decided ... i must stop trying that tack. ok, after the whole lot of information came tumbling out, I typed 'DYSFUNCTIONAL family' in Google. It was the One Word that Launched my 1000 ships. Happy New Year dear Dee. Good to see and read your post. Me going through one of the LOW days here cos I have no escape route available. Waas attempting to secure a live-in r/s with a gay guy...but it did not work out. Lot of issues here...no idea how I can handle it...no idea how am i to get freedom?
Jan 3 - 11PM (Reply to #2)
Dee30
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Freaked

Happy New Year, how old are the kids? Anyway u can live on your own with them? Family support available? I grew up with my stepmom and my extremely narcisstic father. They had 14 kids together. She has been extremely abused throughout their marriage and i think it has been 25 years she was with him. He had many many xtra marital affairs. he even brought his gf home one time and made my stepmom make food for them! when the gf looked confused cuz my stepmom had tears in her eyes(he prolly said his wife didnt care) she fled the house. my dad beat my stepmom. my father has done countless abuse along with abusing my mom. about 3 years ago my stepmom left my father to live with one of my brothers and the kids, some are married all live with my stepmom. she syill feels the need to care for him and I think she has just scuccumbed to his wishes anyways. inside i think he killed her soul. Don't let that monster take ur soul too... My dad still dates girls half his age and parades them in front of our family with no shame...sick