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#1 Oct 1 - 6AM
aceonelady
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what would maybe help me

What maybe would help is to know if there is any of you ladies out there that has exposed the N ,and he got enraged stopped contact you saying that he will never have ever contact you again and you will never hear from him again because you are crazy,and he doesn't like you and do not trust you aftewards he did over some time send a text or something ,some sign of life and tried to recontact?Just wondering....Mine went NC on me 2 years ago,sent me 2 emails and thats all....Thanks

Oct 1 - 9AM
betty2020
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I can add a bit to this; I

I can add a bit to this; I exposed my xN as a child predator. He is aware that I let the cat out of the bag to others that know him and that i am fully aware of his deviant and disgusting behavior. He knows that I am an advocate for child abuse and would never accept this no matter how brainwashed I was. He also knows that i loath and despise him more than anyone that walks this earth. If i was giving a gun and permission, i would more than likely shoot. So I pose a threat to him in the worst way. Although many i told look at me like im crazy, a few (his new girlfriend) has suspicions. She did make contact with me to find out more. She is still with him but i told her much of what i know as validated facts. Although she does not believe much of what i told her, the seed has been planted and she has a daughter herself that she now can keep watch on. I feel better for this. I can stop it but i did give her food for thought. As far as him coming back? It would not be wise. I have saved a few select people that i have not notified yet. I told him if he approaches me in anyway that all my evidence would be mailed to them and again narc injury inflicted. I have build a wall of titanium around myself. I had to make sure that he would not do anything to penetrate and destroy my recovery. I am still fragile. I may always be fragile with him because of the abuse. So i dont think he would attempt it, but never say never b/c these people have invincible mindsets. My advice on this one is go on with your life and dont worry if he contacts or not. You cannot predict the future. Another great quote: "One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering" Lots of love xoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Oct 1 - 9AM (Reply to #3)
aceonelady
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thanks betty

Thanks Betty....is been 2 years now,i broke NC 5 weeks ago,he screamed at me on the phone,but gave me also some information about the mother of his children(has a boyfriend now and is all happy)and said i wasn't weak,and that calling me names and telling me i was old and fat then he did it because he was getting nuts about my weening and crying....he almost said sorry for that....and telling me all these things without me asking,is very acquard,because he would never ever give me any insight in him or his life after D&D ...thats the reason of my question....But he also said he wants nothing to do with me ,because he cannot trust me and he doesn't like me.....

Aceonelady

Oct 1 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
onwithmylife
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aceonelady take a look

I have a post on here to" read the letter my EXN sent me" and he always throws up the word trust, saying I do not trust you and i don't like you, even though I told him honestly when I got back together with him for the millionth time, that I placed an ad looking to meet new people, AFTER he dumped me, he never forgot what i said and twisted it around so that here is the slut, whoring all over the internet, free sex for everyone,come and get it, it is insane, what he wrote, check out my post..I have read lots about narcissism and these people DO NOT trust themselves so how can you possibly trust anyone else, they are very suspicious and paranoid...............
Oct 1 - 10AM (Reply to #4)
betty2020
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RED ALERT... Again mind

RED ALERT... Again mind games. Double talk. Ambient abuse. Gaslighting. A little false kindness goes no where with these people. He throws you a little bone to make you continue to obsess over his motives and keep the focus on him. Then he backs up and slams you to the ground. All tactical play ace. Push and pull, hot and cold. In just that one conversation he has left you just as confused and perplexed as the day you split. He is the same. Nothing has changed with him. It is time to move on now. You will need time to recover from this contact and get back on track but you must remain NC. Im sorry hun, but this is forever. He is dead in your world now and we have to move on in life. Write your eulogy to him and let us read it.....I think it would be good for you to bring you to a state of acceptance that you need. I will be looking forward to reading it :) xoxo only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

only one way to go...Forward (tm?)

Oct 1 - 8AM
ewa
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Mine was exposed, and told

Mine was exposed, and told me I am psycho. But i know he called psycho his ex gf too, and he was in touch with her. Also he emailed me once after that saying he is missing the time we had together. But i told him to F off, and there is not contact initiated from his side since that time.