What was the Worst Payback Ever Inflicted by Your N?

Reading your post i went WOW, i would swear we dated the same man, but mine is not a lawyer, years ago when we broke off, i left his place because of his abuse towards me and sent him a letter that got returned to me, unopened, that was it so I went on a dating website , met man for coffee at a Starbucks, nothing happened, no interest. flash forward 4 months later, get a gorgeous letter from ex narc, trying to lure me back in and in i went, drove to his place and he asked me what i was doing all these months, innocently said i met a guy for coffee from a free dating website. Did he store that information away for future use, you BET he did. when he dumped me a year later, said i was unfaithful, whore, slut, advertising for free sex on Craigslist, i had mentioned that website. He was licking his chops with the information so he could look right and me wrong, but the moron failed to realize we had BROKEN UP, what a childish dummy!!!!I too felt guilty for telling him about my date, NO MORE, the women i knew on this site made me see the light, it is and was HIS problem.......if he had treated me better i would have never gone to a dating website, why would I???

Then came back acting madly in love like he wanted another chance. After he left to return back East I offered him one last chance for our love - he laughed and said he'd think about it and stopped communicating (except when I just went to the hospital again). He is addicted to his fame and attention from new bar girls and fans - he does not care

He pulled over to the side of the road in rural Va. and told me to get out. He told me that he did not like my attitude and he had, had it with me. I had no money, nothing and he was full of rage I started to cry and he told me that I could stay in the car if I changed my attitude.. to this day I have no idea what this was for? At the time we were driving for hours and not talking much... he got really crazy in his car and constantly gets pulled over and ticketed for speeding

I think mine is probably much less cruel then some of the other things I've read on here. It still hurt me a lot. When my ex N and I were just friends, the subject of one night stands came up because a mutual friend of ours had just cheated on our other friend with a one night stand. I had told him I do not understand one night stands. Therefore I do not understand people who have them. I do not judge people for doing it, it's simply not my thing. I must have complete trust in my partner before making that step. I also must know that they care about me as much as I care about them. We broke up 3 1/2 months later. Because I said I love you. He said he wasn't feeling it with me. What a dick. I would never have slept with him in the first place if he hadn't of been so damn fake and made me believe he cared. THAT one thing hurt me so much. It wasn't being dumped that hurt... being deceived did. Payback for admitting I loved him. It's a small thing to some of you I'm sure, but a huge thing to me.

Basically an all out smear campaign. I kept him from seeing his son for awhile until I was sure the little guy would be safe. He went around saying all kinds of things about me. The worst was accusing me of having a three way with two guys while I was involved with him. Umm no- never happened. He accused me personally but I don't know If he has said that to other people- I would say so. Doesn't matter any mutual people have been erased from my life. He also stole my dance pole (I pole dance for exercise) and probably sold it. And also a sentimental ring of my deceased great aunts. :( Oh and he changed the locks on the house and threatened to call the police if I showed up (the house is in his name) He wouldn't give me any of mine or the babies things and I was forced to 'break in' to mynpwn house with police permission. He did all of these things despite him being the one who LEFT ME. Oh and there was a pile of cigarette ash in the food processor that I use to make the babies food.. I didn't do anything to deserve this treatment, except not talk to him. He did all the above stuff BEFORE I withheld our child. The moral of the story- he's a fucking prick!

He told me he loved another girl right after having sex with me.

For the last year of contact, it is a constant push and pull from him. He tells me that he doesnt give a f#ck about me. But then he continues to communicate with me on a daily basis. He lives in another state and each time I go down and see him and things are going well, I get a nasty text message telling me that he doesnt care about me. This is usually coupled with him blocking me from skype and gmail my main ways that I communicate with him. He seems to be on the computer off and on all day and night long. So when he cuts his communication off it is to punish me for something. I find myself upset, panic and full of anxiety because he isn't talking to me.

Okay , you got me beat. I don't know how it could get any worse than that. Mine just kept being more and more insulting over time. Just a few for example: "You can sit around and wait for me to call. Which will be never." "I haven't ever had to use a prostitute. I can just call you." "You seriously don't do anything. Do you?" "Hanging out with you is just okay." and the one that finally got my attention, "I'm going to be brutally honest with you. I only call you when I'm really, really horny." I have no idea what any of them were payback for. I never was anything but nice to the man.

After I declared my love to the ex-Psych prof, he went on a major smear campaign, claiming that I had made unwanted sexual advances on him. I never saw the inside of the Dean's office... so to this day I think HE was the one who was being called to the carpet. A LOT. When I lost a pastor friend of mine to cancer, his "payback" was to flaunt his girlfriend (for naysayers&who would assume it didn't last more than a year, they've been married for a decade) So, that's the final D&D. Afterwards, he gave a personal recommendation for me for a teacher education program at UNM. I went NC on him after graduation, giving ZERO personal contact info. Several weeks into the program, I got a call around 8 pm from a professor, telling me to "be professional¬ tell anyone" that I was getting kicked out of the program¬ to come the next day because allegedly I was a "danger to children." I didn't get anything official. No closing interview (even my Narc workplace did that-I DID get to say my piece to the female Narc manager) I was summarily booted out. Ironically, I did get a teaching job... in Oregon, and it went well. I was NEVER deemed dangerous to children. Then again, the ex-P didn't give a personal reference. I've never used him for job references again.