what is the percentage I wonder

Narcissists NEED Narcissistic Supply, what better way to obtain it? My ex-husband always said, "If I get a divorce, I will NEVER marry again." Yea, right! While we were divorcing, he was getting fixed up from his attorney. He made wedding plans behind my son's back, only telling them the week before that he was remarrying. His reasons to my sons were loony-bin, and once he married, he changed the locks on our family home (he had already thrown me out--longer story); not allowing my sons access to their other home. Both sons were in college at the time, so when they wanted to go home from college to see friends(my house was new and now in another state---where they went to college), they were unable to go to the house they grew up in. Eventually, he sold it and moved into his wife's house with her two children. My sons never spent one night in his house with him again---do you think he cared? Immediately, this remarriage was like the only marriage he ever had. In his eyes, I was DEAD!!!!! He replaced his old family with his new, like they were his "blood children." It's so mindboggling, and now pathetic to me, even members of his family are weird! All the masks fell off. The other day, when I called my son, while he was with his father, he told his son, "When your mother calls and if I am in your presence, do not answer that phone!" My son looked at him and said, "Yea, Dad, right!!!" Both my sons have been educated about their father and while they love him, they keep their boundaries.

The N in my life liked marriage because it gave him a feeling of safety. For him, it was "home base" -where he could play his games from. The first wife had him for 15 years while he had one affair after another. That marriage was on again off again for all that time..until he abandoned her for yet another fantasy online woman. I think the N liked marriage because it held a "mommy" factor. Someone to do everything for him. He begged me to marry him, which I thought meant he really really loved me. But something in the pit of my stomach didnt trust him. I did it anyway. Ignored my own feelings. I have since learned to listen to that little voice within myself.

Marriage comes with rules and legal obligations if they are smart they wouldn't marry. Divorce leaves them in a bad financial place and a lot of their craziness gets outed in court so it is not to their advantage to marry unless the woman has assetts or something that they can't get any other way than marriage.

Mine was married once (apparently). I tend to put the word APPARENTLY after anything that has to do with what my exN has told me! He asked me to marry him. He knew I was not very fond of the whole thing, but he gained my faith and trust. Great. He talked it up, called me his "wife" while we were engaged, and Mrs. (his last name). Aww, how romantic. Uh-huh. Then he left right before 'the big day'. Nice. He managed to dodge the bullet I guess. Then wanted me back, and to go forward with our plans. Sure. But it's me who dodged the bullet, something I will always...always thank God for.

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