What a NARC said on another board about NC

66 posts / 0 new
Last post
Mar 7 - 4PM (Reply to #14)
michele115 (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

Wiser...

A hoover is basically when after a period of no contact they start raising their ugly heads fishing around usually with a song and dance about how much they missed you...blah blah blah... It coincides usually with the new supply not being as exciting so they recycle the old supply *that would be us* so nc is the best way to ward it off and you block emails, faxes, texting, fb, myspace, telephones, whatever... They show up at the door you don't answer...they get forceful you call the police... It's easier if you stick to NC and it is encouraged...but sometimes folks fall off the wagon...then it makes things more complicated...takes you all the way back to step one... AND they will be very convincing and you will be second guessing...hundreds of stories here...that all end up the same...not one report I've read ended happily... AND it can even happen 20 years from now...true story happened to my mom just two weeks ago...and someone here I think posted 15 years later... There's always a catch but focus more on healing, sticking to NC and getting him out of your mind...that will keep you really really busy but I'm saddened to report, probably not entertained... HUGS!
Mar 7 - 3PM (Reply to #10)
WiserNow30
WiserNow30's picture

The "epiphanies" keep coming

Another fb message today . . . my added comments are in CAPS. I'm adhering to no contact and the starvation has started already after only three days. As long as the messages keep coming, I'll keep adding them to my civil protection order evidence file. "I mailed you a letter this morning it was nothing but nice i think, but some people told me I am not doing this right and that I should treat us like there was a death (YA, BECAUSE YOU KILLED US, DON'T WORRY, I ALREADY CONSIDER YOU DEAD TO ME). So I guess maybe they are right. I shouldn't keep reaching out to you, and I should leave you to move on... (BUT I WON'T BECAUSE I HAVE TO MAKE VERY SURE THAT I CAN'T GET ANY MORE SUPPLY FROM YOU) I guess I have so much to say and apologize for that ... I guess it doesn't matter there isn't anything I can do to undo what I have done. Even though it's over I want you to know i am not. I am going to beat these deamons (YOU MIGHT WANT TO LEARN HOW TO SPELL DEMONS IF YOU'RE GONNA BEAT THEM) and at least then you won't be embarresed to say you dated me. I kinda wish it wouldn't have taken this to wake me up but it did. I have a neat little thing I am doing now to work on my self. I write it's probably not great writing you will see tomorrow, but when I start thinking insecure or call some one or look at something. I just write instead. Granted this started yesterday, but it's 2 days that have gone pretty well (POOR ME, HOW MANY TIMES CAN I SAY "I" IN THIS MESSAGE). Anyway I hope you are doing well (EVEN THOUGH I PUT SPYWARE ON YOUR PHONE AND PUT A MATCH.COM PROFILE UP) it's beautiful here 80 degrees and warm I will run tomorrow early (I KNOW THAT YOU LOVE TO RUN SO I'LL THROW THAT IN THERE). Umm..... I guess that's it kiss cho for me once (POOR ME, I'LL NEVER SEE THE PUPPY AGAIN)."
Mar 7 - 4PM (Reply to #11)
michele115 (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

Wiser

Have you considered setting this eloquent note to music...I think Bethoven's Moolight Sonata would be suitable... I'm going to upload it to the music section now! *Joking* Oh boy... You're doing good! Keep it up...loved your comments, I was laughing aloud...the cat is looking at me strange...
Mar 7 - 4PM (Reply to #12)
WiserNow30
WiserNow30's picture

Michele115

I haven't set it to music yet but I did play my imaginary violin as I read it. :) He really is showing his level of craziness. And it's killing him that I've gone no contact. Love and hugs. Thanks for all your advice.
Mar 7 - 4PM (Reply to #13)
michele115 (not verified)
Anonymous's picture

Wiser...

Well in that case, I read somewhere that when playing songs of sympathy on violin, the size of the violin must match the character of the Narc...so make sure it's the world's smallest. That is simply the thumb and the middle finger rubbed together...it's economical too in keeping with their generosity... Hugs!