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What my ex thinks about being emotionally mature

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#1 Jan 6 - 8PM
Jinny
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What my ex thinks about being emotionally mature

Directly from my ex boyfriend and stupid narc's mouth:
"I realized that being emotionally mature means don't give a single f*ck! Luckily, I'm really mature these days."

That was after he and OW broke up, like a month ago. I don't know the details or who dumped who but she was sad and angry and he was saying things like that.

After I heard about them breaking up I didn't feel happier, like I thought it would. I just realized the time I wasted obsessing about them and how he would treat her and if he would change for her, even when I knew he is a Narc, he won't change and OW is irrelevant.

And he has not idea what being emotionally mature means.

Hugs :)

Jan 6 - 8PM
onwithmylife
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As my therapist

said they' are emotionally immature, underdeveloped men', how politely put...........he corrected me when I called the nark mentally ill...........
Jan 6 - 8PM
needing2know
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you have to remember they are

you have to remember they are toddlers trap in a mans body
Jan 6 - 8PM
strong_enough
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True story! They are some of

True story! They are some of the most emotionally impotent men out there. It is truly amazing the amount of wasted energy we put into our own "magical thinking" about the Narc and the OW. I have done the same thing and want to STOP! We all deserve so much better in life, love, and relationships! We need to learn not "to settle" just to ease our own anxieties about being alone.
Jan 7 - 10AM (Reply to #2)
Jinny
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Magical Thinking

When I heard about them breaking up, I didn't believe it. I thought: 2It's a lie, they don't want me warning the ow about the narc, so they want me to believe they broke up." But I stopped that and went NC a month before they broke up. And if they want to lie to me, they would say how happy they are together. I hate my magical thinking. He is not different than others narcs, ow is not different either. I remember when I joined this forum I was so worried about her beign different, they were a couple 4 years ago and she dumped him and he was really "sad". He did things for her that he never did for me, and I thought this girl is the love of his life, he never got over her. He is a narc with me and everybody else but not with this girl, she is diferent and he loves her. People here told me he only idealized her 'cause he couldn't discard her. And they were right. 4 years later with the "love of his life" and their relationship lasted two months and she is sad and angry and he just don't give a single f*uck. It was a wasted of time. He is a Narc, he is not different than other narcs and ow was not different than other victims.