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#1 May 11 - 9PM
Steph
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What makes you smile?

I am wondering....even in the midst of your struggles with recovery.....what people/things/events still manage to bring a smile to your face?

For me, I have pets....and their personalities always make me smile, at some point.

Also, I volunteer and my little shifts, always bring a smile to my face....(albeit, it's with animals that I volunteer with lol...what can I say, I am an animal lover lol)

I watch "American Idol"....don't hold it against me!....and the talent there, always makes me smile.....even when I'm having a crappy night.

There are many silly and quirky things that make me laugh....but I won't bore you with ALL of them! haha

But, I wanna know what makes YOU smile.

This recovery process is emotionally taxing, no doubt. We focus on the negative crap we feel ( which don't get me wrong, it's NECESSARY and healthy to do so ) BUT... I think we shouldn't forget about the things that DO bring us some element of joy ....even if it is just something "little"...it's still important:)

Ladies and gentlemen of the board.....what brings a smile to YOUR face??

Share it, you may make someone else here smile:)

xoxo

Jul 14 - 1AM
mrlin (not verified)
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xoxoxo
May 16 - 5AM
Goldie
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GREAT TOPIC!!!

My puppy My friends My son The narc actually makes me smile now because his behavior is soooo.... ridiculous and I now GET that it is NOT my fault!!! He is what he is and it has NOTHING to do with me. God bless, Goldie
May 14 - 1AM
TLSM
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DWAYNE "The

DWAYNE "The Rock"JOHNSON!!! Love that Hawaiian boy. :-P
May 15 - 6PM (Reply to #42)
Hunter
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TLSM

That just made me smile too. Hunter
May 12 - 7PM
Sanity Check
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Thanks...I needed that

I appreciate this post - especially today - kind of a crappy day. As I write this, my dog is in his bed next to my chair snoring loudly - the sound makes me smile. He is my only roommate now. It's funny how my dog's snoring is soothing but when my exN did it, all I could think of was smothering him with a pillow....
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #36)
Steph
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lol. When you have the

lol. When you have the unconditional love that a dog gives....their quirks are cute.....when you put up with an abusive Narc, after awhile EVERYTHING they do makes your skin crawl! I hope you have a better evening and better day tomorrow:) xoxo What kind a dog is that snoring pal of yours?
May 13 - 6PM (Reply to #37)
Sanity Check
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Corgle

He is part Corgi and part Beagle. Corgi body with a beagle head screwed on. Some dickhead was trying to dump him on my road. That was in 2007 and I've had him ever since - he's the best! Do you have a pet?
May 15 - 3PM (Reply to #38)
Steph
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Sanity Check

aaaawe! He sounds adorable. Probably a narc that dumped him off.....they are kinda notorius for dumping people/things etc. lol So happy he is in a good home now:) Yes, I have pets.....three cats lol....all rescued. One more, and I am officially "crazy cat lady"
May 15 - 4PM (Reply to #39)
Susan32
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Cats- best rebound ever!!!

After the final D&D 11 years ago, I made fast friends with my roommate's cat. It wasn't to last, but my roommate's cat was a source of consolation&unconditional love. Cats tend to be aloof, but her cat bonded with me.
May 15 - 4PM (Reply to #40)
Steph
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Susan32

Thanks for saying that! They really are a source of consolation and unconditional love...as all pets are, really. xoxo
May 12 - 4PM
mystwoman
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My friends and family that

My friends and family that love me, accept me, and support me just because I'm me. They love me for just being the nerd that I really am. :) Reading a good book, or watching a movie, and knowing that my friends will talk (and laugh) with me about them because they've read, or seen, the same things and they can really relate with me. None of them will be acting bored or belittle my comments. Listening to my basset hound wallowing around in the dining room while he's dragging his face on the carpet, and making really strange noises always makes me smile. I've had to explain to people that if they should hear "RRRRRLLL!!! RRRRFLLLLLL!!! RRRLLLLLL!!! OOOOOOOF!!!!", it's probably not a monster behind the couch. It's just Otis. He's really talented, and can push himself around the house using only his back legs. His face stays on the floor the entire time. This includes turning corners and going in circles (along with full "sound effects"), and yes, I think he knows he's funny. If I imitate him, he gets louder and louder, and acts all proud of himself. When my allergies get really bad, I envy him. I'd love to drag my face around on the rug and make strange noises, too. lol.

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May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #34)
Steph
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Too funny!

Otis sounds like a riot!! "I'd love to drag my face around on the rug and make strange noises, too. lol." I'm just envisioning that scenario, and laughing lol xoxo
May 12 - 3PM
lynn61
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staying strong

what a great post and a great idea! first and foremost my 3 awesome grown daughters make me smile almost every day. they are intelligent, funny, independent and healthy! my cat who loves to play, freedom to watch french films and eat whatever i want, getting to laugh at a joke from my attorney in the middle of the most painful divorce after a 29 year marriage, going out with friends and coming home whenever, having the most amazing friends, my faith, my apartment decorated exactly the way i want it, but most of all....the news this past week that i'm going to be a grandma! these are the kinds of things that make me smile :-)

really??

May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #32)
Steph
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lynn

A grandma! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! xoxo
May 12 - 10AM
skystar
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Dancing makes me happy,

Dancing makes me happy, popsicles, a good book, laying in the sun. watching my kids enjoy each other - grandchildren AND dj
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #30)
Steph
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skystar

All great things indeed! If you saw how bad I am at dancing.....that would make you smile too lol xoxo
May 12 - 9AM
7yeaeritch
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Honestly, in my heart, when

Honestly, in my heart, when I'm being honest (and this is scary) -- nothing.
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #28)
Steph
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7yearitch

Your heart is numb now and I'm so sorry. Give it time, lots of it and your heart will smile again one day. Big hug to you:) xoxo
May 12 - 9AM (Reply to #26)
Hunter
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7 yr

Come on, my jokes don't make you smile? I know they do :) All I can say is try! Walk the beach, hike, fresh air, he's not worth this sadness! Hunter
May 12 - 10AM (Reply to #27)
7yeaeritch
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Yes, Hunter, you make me

Yes, Hunter, you make me smile but with my lips, not from my heart. It can't seem to move enough to smile. But I'm hoping, believing I'll get there. When he didn't talk to me for 2 and a half years, I never really smiled. It was all fake. Hopefully, this time I'll do better (which I think is the name of a song).
May 12 - 9AM (Reply to #24)
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7yearitchy

ou are a very brave women for saying this, all day i have been avoiding answering this now i will. i feel nothing just dead.
May 12 - 9AM (Reply to #25)
wacaet
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the numbness and dead feeling

the numbness and dead feeling will pass, don't give up
May 12 - 7AM
wacaet
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my yard, we got a pool a

my yard, we got a pool a couple years ago and I worked VERY hard in the yard last year...when I moved out of the house, I was walking away from all that...so happy to be back and be able to go out and get my hands dirty again YOGA! I went an entire class w/out thinking of my N last night, I realized during final relaxation I'd been totally focused on me the whole class...yoga has helped me so much but I was NOT able to not think of him during class the last 4 months, until last night.
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #20)
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wacaet

"YOGA! I went an entire class w/out thinking of my N last night, I realized during final relaxation I'd been totally focused on me the whole class..." That is a huge milestone! Congratulations:) xoxo
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #21)
wacaet
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I must admit that once the

I must admit that once the thought crossed my mind that I hadn't thought of him, I started thinking of him again but hey, an hour of free time was fabulous
May 12 - 9PM (Reply to #22)
Steph
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yup. still fabulous! It's

yup. still fabulous! It's part of the "habit", what we are used to doing......like "hmmm, what am I forgetting? something feels different.....oh that's right, I haven't thought of N.." lol and then naturally, you start thinking of him again. It's totally fine. Definately still progress! xoxo
May 12 - 7AM
Lobo555
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Everything Important

My family, friends -- people who stand by me genuinely with no ulterior motives. They are what make me smile. And cry with relief that they are in my life and not the narc! They are what is important. I love this thread. It reminds me that there is still good around.
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #18)
Steph
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That's a good one....people

That's a good one....people that stand by you and don't have ulterior motives. There really is still good out there....and we all deserve to find that goodness and experience lots of smiles, laughter, and love. xoxo
May 12 - 6AM
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ss78

My son gave me a huge hug this morning and that brought a big smile to my face. These past few months feel calm again and my son seems all the better from it.
May 12 - 8PM (Reply to #16)
Steph
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Happy1

Sounds like your son is getting his happy mother back! Definately worth a million smiles:) xoxo