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What is a Life Coach?

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#1 Jun 15 - 10PM
Lisa E. Scott
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What is a Life Coach?

"I completely overlooked that but -One who provides assistance to others need to have it together pretty well and not have employment and relationship struggles." ~Jessika

I apologize, but I must say one last thing in my defense and then no more, no mas, an end to all the drama, I promise.

Being a life coach is about helping someone meet their life goals. I would just like to say that I am more than qualified to do this. I have my Master's in Human Resources, have been working in the field for 16 years, been published twice in academic journals related to my field and spend my days coaching employees on how to set and achieve their career goals. I have facilitated hundreds of training sessions in my job on how to set goals and been a keynote speaker at many events on the topic.

A life coach helps someone meet their life goals. I want to help others get out of the nonproductive negative emotional state they are in so they can take back control of their life. I am not trying to play psycho-therapist or stop someone from committing suicide. I wouldn't think of pretending I know what to do with someone in such a fragile state. I want to help people who are ready to move on and manifest their dreams. I hardly think this is irresponsible of me.

I would also like to clarify that I do have my life very much together. I'm not sure where one gets the impression that I am currently having relationship struggles. As far as my career, I am the HR Director of an international company and financially independent. I own my own place and am highly respected in my field.

I am still fine-tuning my coaching methodology, but it will consist of what I learned in undergrad and graduate school, what I do on-the-job, what I learned in my own treatment for OCD via Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and my new license in Subconscious Restructuring. I used to facilitate a support group at University of Chicago for people with OCD. The Director of the Program asked me to facilitate based on my ability to coach and work with others in their development.

Sorry I felt the need to defend myself one last time, but I promise, this is it. I am NOT trying to replace a therapist by any means! I would never dream of doing that. I simply want to use the skills I have gained in my education and career to help others move on from the devastation of trying to love a narcissist. We can recreate our lives and manifest our dreams! We have one life to live and I want to live it to its fullest!

Jun 17 - 11AM
GhostBuster
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I've been thinking about this

quite a bit lately, watching everything unfold here and yes, the venom spewed on both sides. I understand completely why emotions were so high, but I still find it so unfortunate. Especially for those who come here just out (or maybe still in) a relationship with an N or P. What I was really thinking about lately was the desire to help others once you realize you've been with an N. Being with an N is life changing and I too have had the very strong desire to do something with all of the knowledge I've amassed here and other sites like Sandra Brown's and Barbara's websites. I too feel like I've got to tell others, help others and do SOMETHING. I respect Lisa's drive to do her part by writing her book and creating and maintaining this forum. I never would have found this safe place if she hadn't and I'm forever greatful for that (and for finding Barbara who has helped me immensely). I have no problem with Lisa earning money from these endeavors if she can genuinely help other victims and has the training to do so. I'm not going to get into the legitimacy of SR --I'm not qualified to do so. Others with more knowledge have raised their concerns and I have nothing to add. It's Lisa's choice how she wants to proceed. Back to the drive to help/do something...a couple months back I was having dinner with my new neighbor, who is now divorced from an alcoholic who in my estimation exhibits many N traits. She gave up her comfortable life to break free from him, all of "their friends" and hers think she should just be over it, she's unemployed and struggling to pay her bills, struggling with anxiety and all the tell-tale ailments of having been involved with a pathological person. I told her about my own situation having broken free from an N, and she opened up to me about everything. She had tears in her eyes at various points and I had tears in mine hearing her story and absorbing her raw emotion. On our way home, she told me this was the first time in the year since she's been divorced that she didn't feel completely crazy. She had someone to talk to, someone who could validate her, someone who "got it." It was an amazing feeling to be able to do that for someone. It made me feel alive for the first time in four years of being involved with and recovering from two Ns. My point in telling this story is that I completely understand the drive and need educate and be part of the solution. As I'm not a psychologist or qualified to coach (or healed enough to pursue coaching certification), I'm not sure just how I'll participate yet. But I know that I will in some way, some day.
Jun 17 - 12PM (Reply to #4)
Lisa E. Scott
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Thanks Ghostbuster & Smileyface

I appreciate your comments. Turning a horrible experience into something where you feel you can help others is what this messageboard is all about! What we went through was difficult and painful and we might as well take what we learned to help others. Just by being on this messageboard and supporting one another, you are giving back. To be heard and understood is what it's all about. We need that more than anything right now. I'm so glad we're all here for one another. Big Hugs, Lisa
Jun 16 - 10PM
smileyfacepr
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U have

the right to defend urself as many times u feel necessary this is the good old USA!!! Thats all folks!!!

smileyfacepr

Jun 16 - 12AM
Steph
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Lisa

Don't apologize for defending yourself. You have every right to! I think it's great what you are trying to do and I personally am looking forward to your new site. Nothing more to say on the matters of the day other than..... I hope you finish this night off with a nice BIG glass of wine and a beautiful sleep. You've earned it!