What if i hadn't found this site..???

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#1 Sep 16 - 12PM
sweetsamm
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What if i hadn't found this site..???

I'm just wondering if anyone else wonders where they'd be without this site...I was just sitting here thinking about what would've happened if i hadn't stumbled upon this site,met everyone here,and finally realized i wasn't alone. I never would've done NC,still would've thought I did something to make him like that,and never would've known there was actually a name for him...I also would've NEVER had the strength to move forward or stop my crazy texts,lol...i have to say I have snapped back to reality so many times just by logging on here. Plus,i had lost so much faith in women...most of the women around me ended up sleeping with N,or just backstabbing me....it's so awesome to have so much 'woman power',WE are so strong together,i think sometimes we forget that.....anyway,i'm sure this site will continue to help me grow and I hope word gets out to other women in our situation...

Sep 16 - 5PM
Alibi_10
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Being here

This is a good post. Have to agree with scoop, I arrived by a similar route after mixed messages. ... and am overwhelmed by the support and sense of solidarity. I have loving friends and family but they just don't GET what is going on like everyone here.... so I either bottle it up or come on here to read and think. ... without this board I would be as mad as a box of frogs!
Sep 16 - 5PM
Susan32
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Without this board...

-I wouldn't have deleted the ex-Narc boss from my phone. I would've called him. -I would've called the ex-Psych professor. Either way, it wouldn't have been good.
Sep 16 - 1PM
Scoop
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I wonder that too , the day

I wonder that too , the day i went serching for answers i googled "mixed messages"and it came up with presonality disorders and i read through them and i hit narcissist and then serch serch serch and here i came . Its been over a year that i did that and i have learnt so much , oh my , its been a year of ups and downs , laughs and crying ... lots of crying .I love all you guys , i dont know what i would have done with out you all , seriously . xx
Sep 16 - 1PM
lisalisa47
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There are NO what if's in life

just the path you are meant to take at the time. It was meant to be that each of us found what we needed at the time we were ready for it. "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" - Many people have said this, but I'd like to think PeeWee Herman made it up. LOL

LML

Sep 16 - 1PM
Used
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sweetsamm

this has been my saving grace to be able to come on here has helped me stick to nc. when i relized there will never be a change in their behaviour and ironicly my n said after a fight with his sister, no i wont f..king change, at that time it was early days for meeting him and i thought change what? well i know now. so what point is going back, when i know nothing will ever change, i have also learned so much on here about them, i would know why he says what, when he says this and means that, evey lie, every twitch, everybit of body languedge, so what is the point, i have also relized that tho he has been diagnosed by pychtrist as having a personality disorder, he is in fact a pyscopath, what would a shrink realy know about someone they see every 2mnths for 25minutes, i spent 24/7 will this man, he could keep up act with shrink, he couldnt with me it was to tiring.for him. i believe i am lucky to be alive and my therapist told me that too about my exh and narc. yes i also agree with my disappointment with some of the woman involved. my best "freind", contiually said dont talk to him.dont look at him dont say hi to him, when i stopped. she spoke to him. i dropped her,as an old freind said to me when i told him this, let them have each other they deserve each other, so i thought. OK I WILL.
Sep 16 - 6PM (Reply to #2)
ShaynasMommy
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used

yeah, I had a "friend," who was "right there with me" all through the D&D. She seemed to be as shocked and outraged as I was. Then later, she agreed to be his roomate. phony bitch whore.
Sep 18 - 4AM (Reply to #3)
sweetsamm
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shaynasmommy

Well..........................my 'friend' fucked and continues to fuck mine.......skank,whore,backstabbing,horseface,plastic surgery don't,bitch........i feel ya shaynasmommy:) P.S.She is an N also...........