what I would say today

Totally empty shells they are - this is what you must remember, no soul = no feelings of love for us or even themselves. He has to avoid you, you saw the mask fall and the REAL parasite emerge and show his rage. His very survival rests on his ability to manipulate, lie and deceive - you're too much of a risk to his very existence. You hold the power and you need to get yourself back. I agree with Blueeyes, I dumped mine 5 months ago and never thought I could live without him - well guess what? Turns out I can, and am doing better than ever before without his manky ass near me. I'm not saying I'm healed, I'm not, but what I do have now, is perspective and you know what? He's not worth anymore of your emotions. I have disconnected from mine and he repulses me when I think of him and what he is. A major red flag I ignored was an email he sent me..."I have to go, I'm watching the Bachelor and I'm about to watch him lie to one woman and break the other one's heart, the gods must be smiling on me tonight, life doesn't get much better than this".....I mean WOW!!!!! It pleased him no end that he was about to watch women go through heartbreak, how could I not see through that? Anyone who can hurt with intention and be so merciless, doesn't deserve to breathe the same air we do. You will always be so much better than him in every way, let him go....x

you and I have a tendency to have a hard time letting of these guys, difficult as it is. It took me 2 years and even sending a card to him when I found out he had stomach and throat cancer and do I EVEN get a thank you, heavens NO, just more ranting about my 'whoring" around when we were together, on the internet and doing destructive things to kill our relationship DUH, wonder who he is talking about !????????????????Oh yes and me being a cougar, what an imbecile and idiot, he NEVER knew ME. Your EXnarc is the same way. That did it for me in terms of letting go. He is getting his KARMA as we speak.................We are the TRUTH, they do not want to face that now and forever..............

Awww, Helldweller :( Let him go, honey. Just let him GO. Release release release :( That filthy, revolting creature, for some reason, has a place in this world. And there ain't a damn thing to be done about it. He crosses the street because he knows you know. And now that you know . . . now what? Will you want to hold his feet to the fire forever? It's just more focus on him. This part of it I TOTALLY understand. I've had to work on myself in this regard. And I didn't even have to see him, it was so strong. I doubt for your Narc he is pretending much of anything. He knows what he did, he just doesn't care that it hurt you or anyone else.

i feel the same exact way today, so big hugs to you! this exact thing is happening to me now, i am being ignored.. for what? i dont know maybe being an awesome lady who cared and was loving and loyal. it just complete infuriates me that they cant even step outside of themselves. your right its like they just pretend like it never happened. sickening.

The one and only communication I got from the EXN (long after he dissapeared)was when I wrote to tell him his OW contacted me. I had confirmed everything by then. His response was 3 sentences. of course the OW was 'crazy" and "obsessed" with him because he broke up with her. He is not ablet to be honest about ANYTHING because it really, really makes him look bad, not perfect, like he wants to be. He never acknowledged his lying, his behaviour, anything. This is an example of avoidance. He cannot own up to anything - and never will. When his wife caught him for the 4th time cheating, when she asked him about this OW (who is Ow name?) he gave her the silent treatment and pulled a dissapearing act on her. lovely. your narc crosses the street as a avoidance tactic, and if he can do it in such a way to hurt your feelings, he will do it, because he cannot deal with himself - ever. And if he can shoot a glare your way, make you feel worse - he will. It is so awful, ruthless and cowardly, and if I were you I would figure out a way to avoid seeing him- if possible. I imagine it is very painful to have to see him so often. I am thankful I do not have look upon the EXN face again. Even seeing his picture rattles me, much less having to see him in person after such treatment and have him treat me the same way.

I hear ya! They will never know and understand! They don't have empathy and really could care less. They only care about supply and attention. They don't care who the attention is from as long as they have it. I'm thinking of you today. I hear your anger and hurt. I'm sorry! (hugs to you) Happy1