i believe it's the idea, that they think, it's possible to continue where they have left the story as they want, because they are even superior over time... my ex n always told me: time will heal... and with time things go calmer and you can approach people again... OMG now I understand what did he mean... horrible arrogance and coward thinking. It's all about avoiding conflicts and getting you again WITH TIME-When you are not hurt anymore again...
This is probably the start of a whole new thread (and I'll make one if you want), but you've hit a point that's been on my mind ALOT. I've always wonderful if indifference is safe? Is staying a bit angry protection? Alot of us won't know until the time comes and we're confronted with the N in 3,4,5,...20 years.
Feel free to start the thread I would love to see the responses to it, but some of what i read , they make contact within weeks not just years, so another thing would be to ask how long did it take the little shit to contact you after the D&D
Now you know whet I got my name...
Who comes to your job, asks you to lunch, tells you that he needs to be alone to find out what he really wants (knowing full well he can't be alone for more than 5 minutes), leaves you in pieces with another half day of work left and then shows up the next day at your house, only to leave in a rage because you had the audacity to ask why the hell they are here?
Ohhhhhh yes, they ALWAYS come to visit.
Pricks.
What I meant was, that they do not come back to love you. Just to visit you to leave again.
Sometimes when I read here after what kind of things did they just appeared after years and how :O I don't think I will ever be able to get this...I had an other N before, who appeared after 3 years texting me that I am the ideal woman for him, someone who he still dreams of... sure I am...
I so agree with you.... pricks
Do they really show up un announced????? I honestly do not see my ex doing that shit, he seems like the tough type , but he is a coward deep down inside.
Thank you . I think I'm ganna like it here! How many have had the "pleasure" NOT of these people returning after they got dumped? THE COME TO VISIT? whats up wth that shit?
You cant trust them. It's not about you. It's not that he comes back to you. He comes back for what you provide. Once you run out of the source they will be off again. Or they are not even interested. just want to check it, if you are still jump for their bullshit.
AND you are going to LOVE it here. :)
i did everything for this man, he is in his 50's , i never lived with him , but helped him with his kids, I mean everything, made him breakfast every morning, woke him up with , well use your imagination lol , had his back, he had it made with me , did everything he ever asked of me and then some! He lost a good thing and he will not ever get it back!
Focus on how great you are in a relationship and how much do you have to give.
Soon you gonna find someone who appreciates it and provides the same.
Leave the N alone... that's what his kids are planning to do as well :)
i know i am a loving caring compassionate woman, I will never I don't care how f&*% up some one is, they will never take that away from me, because if they did that means they win! I'M OT A LOSER! not to no man! His loss my gain! and his kids are now teenagers and they cannot wait to move the hell out!
It is those qualities: being loving, caring and compassionate that you need to focus on and your healing.
It is natural to worry about a possible return of the N -but also pointless. Mine came back 25 years after our first relationship (nothing in between). This triggered a second brief relationship (I was very young the first time- knew nothing of Ns). After the very messy end of our second time together, he got in touch again after 3 weeks then 6 months (I knew to stay NC this time).
When a relationship with an N ends, for a while we hope we mean something to them and so, we think their return proves this. It is dangerous thinking.
It is best just to focus on ourselves. If they do reappear, we deal with that then or rather we don't- because it's NC.
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They sure do Anabelle...
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I already do live it here lol
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It is those qualities: being