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What He Said vs What He Really Means - Part 2

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#1 Aug 25 - 2PM
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What He Said vs What He Really Means - Part 2

from perutoo's exN

"Dear Peru .
Quell your ranting, it dosent do any good.
I have no feelings or emotions. I am a heartless piece of dung.

I know you want to hate me for the way you feel right now and i dont blame you It came out as not intended when i said men and women view sex in diffrent ways .I should have been more specific
I love to be hated! It's attention! Now I am going to f-k with your mind with my word salad...

You and i see sex in a diffrent light in this respect .It boils down to my contradiction.I see sex as a reproductive action ,although the lesbian in me makes it seem so good to you (lesbian and cock is a good combination), that doesnt mean i cant empathise the symbolic act we share when we act it out to one another
I am a twisted freak. I am so warped and perverted and screwed up when it comes to sex. Every woman is a thing with a hole to me. So now I am going to justify my warped view and make your head spin.

You know its nothing to do with that otherwise i would have taken advantage of you when you presented yourself to me .I know your vunerabilities and they have come from your past .You need to disect these and work out where your actual position is
I know all your weak spots and I am going to push all your buttons. I am a predator, a monster and to me you were like pre-tenderized meat.

Offering yourself in this way does not bring you the love previous men have made you believe you need .
I want to make sure I screw up your head for any future relationships!

Five hours from going from one standpoint to another should tell you a lot about your situation .I know how much you feel for me and thats what makes it so difficult .I have been walking a fine line between what baggage previous men have imposed on you and who you really are . Unfortunatly i can not claim i have not unloaded any myself but i hope my last email gave you some insite to my own contradiction and problems that have me act the way i have with you .
I am incapable of love, feeling or anything but eviscerating everyone I know. But I am going to play on your compassion and throw out enough word salad so you believe it's YOUR FAULT because - I'm perfect. It's never my fault.

You are right when you say that deep down i love you and i do , but it is a love of unequivocal friendship .Yes i can pretend like its one i feel for everyone but its one like i feel for a best friend , a very close friend.Not everyone receives that but you know how to ask the right questions , a valiant skill indeed and its what seperates you from the rest , take heart in this .
Damn you - you started ripping off my mask. See I can say the word "love" and actually make you believe it - this makes me feel powerful. Now I am going throw the friend thing at you and hope I can keep you around to play with you when I'm bored.

Still you are in a fragile state but what doesnt kills you makes you stronger . You are strong , keep it up.I hope to see you Sunday and we can maintain the friendship we have built already
Stick around - you're great supply. And if you believe any of this I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you. I am the ultimate con man. And a twisted on at that!

In solidarity
Narcissist
FLAMING all about me me me Narcissist!

Aug 26 - 10AM
justwantpeace
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oh i love this. i was just

oh i love this. i was just told a couple of weeks ago that he felt he lost a friend in all this. really i didnt know we were friends even after saying that we are nothing anymore. and that explains why the other woman only got to meet his Nmom. he knew everyone else would look down on the good image he was trying to present. also he couldnt bring the other woman around the other people either, she would learn the truth about everything. He couldnt let that happen and her dump him. and guess what she dumped him in the end anyway. oh this was a great post.
Aug 26 - 5AM
dolce (not verified)
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word salad

I never heard this term. Thats so funny! (but true) Yeah, mine wanted to be friends too. Email friends.Just so he could keep the door open to mess with me when he gets bored. Forget It! How about playing a little game called "send me the money you stole from our account when you abandoned me"
Aug 26 - 1PM (Reply to #12)
Barbara (not verified)
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word salad

the definition: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/word%20salad also called: schizophasia ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Narc Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Aug 26 - 3AM
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My n sent me porn yesterday

My n sent me porn yesterday in an email . .enough said . Peru x
Aug 26 - 1PM (Reply to #10)
Barbara (not verified)
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perutoo

BLOCK THE EMAILS!!! BTW - in the US sending porn to someone who did NOT ask for it, is a crime. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Aug 26 - 6AM (Reply to #7)
quietude (not verified)
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peru

Awwwwww, nothing says "I love you" like a porn filled e-mail! (gag!)
Aug 26 - 1PM (Reply to #8)
Barbara (not verified)
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porn email says "this is what I think of women"

when Psycho-Boy's other target (that I knew of) showed me the email he sent her it was disgusting. Ecards of couples doing all sorts of nasty stuff. He even made her a home video which she sent to the FBI (who did NOTHING!) So she uploaded it online. Anyone who wants to see it - write me off-list. It's brief but WHOA!! Psycho-boy also loved sending pictures of his JUNK to women. I deleted them immediately because I have kids. It was just EWWWW..... ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Aug 26 - 7PM (Reply to #9)
quietude (not verified)
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photos

Omg Barbara, I remember that video...I wasn't expecting to see his thingy...that was so weird, lol. Their idea of romance is to flash their parts at us...how nice. I soooooo wish I knew about narcissism years ago...(how many times have I said this)? sigh...I would have recognized him wanting to send me all those photos and poses MEANT something. Mine sent me a LOT when we were separated. He insisted I do the same. I told him I hated getting my pic taken, and I only had a couple *maybe*. He gave me a guilt trip that he sent SO MANY to show me he loves me...so I guess I didn't love him if I didn't reciprocate?? So I sent a few that I snapped off...and his attitude was seeeee, that wasn't so hard -- which just made me feel belittled and stupid. YES, it was hard...I'm not a "look at me" type of person, unlike you bozo!
Aug 26 - 1AM
cupcake (not verified)
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The friend thing

Wow! My N would throw the 'friend' word at me when he felt we were getting too close. I guess I can now translate that into 'I will keep you around for supply when I am bored again or when my GF becomes too suffocating'. Am I right to say he would play us both against each other? He even told me (told me - instructed me) when he first started chasing me that were 'good friends who can be physical because are good friends who are comfortable with each other'. My goodness what did I do? Why did I let myself be treated like that? I'm laughing at myself! What was wrong with me? I should have slapped him and sent him on his way! So if he felt bored with her he would come to me and vice versa? Wow. I am starting to see this guy I was so 'in love' with as well - a bit of a loser!
Aug 26 - 6AM (Reply to #5)
quietude (not verified)
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cupcake

That's a good thing that you're seeing him in that light...I have 'devalued' my ex in my mind a great deal. My ex didn't say the friend thing, but during the last time we were together, which was less than 2 months, he never initiated saying he loved me. He was void of romance and pursuing me. He just acted funny the whole time he was here, which made my anxiety go through the roof and he knew it. I was so pissed, we were separated nearly a year from afar, we worked on our damn relationship all that time...we get together and he goes into freak mode almost immediately. It was just surreal. I was secretly bracing for abandonment. I hated the last time we were together, which did make it easier in trying to get over him.
Aug 26 - 2AM (Reply to #4)
Barbara (not verified)
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friends? a Narc is NEVER a friend

yeah - friend... hah... these creatures have no clue what that word really means. Psycho-Boy often said I was one of his closest "friends" and that he was my "friend" always. Well, friends don't: - bad mouth their spouses to coerce that friend into having sex with them - friends don't purposely prevent their friends from meeting their families and vice versa (that's called a "closed channel" and "isolation" and is used by abusers to keep people from talking & figuring out the truth) - friends don't call the cops on someone who's disabled and in the hospital by giving the police partial & selective information to make the 'friend' look like a threatening stalker (total projection as he was threatening & stalking ME - boy were the cops STUNNED when they met me and saw that I had even ditched my computer and was back to using a cane because the PTSD had put my symptoms in flare) - friends don't call their friends "fat, ugly, horrors" and FORGET to mention the person they are talking about are disabled, on meds, numerous surgeries and days when they can't walk (especially when they themselves aren't exactly Brad Pitt. There's more than looks to someone - but a Narc wouldn't ever 'get' that) - friends don't tell other people not to "TALK TO" that person because "she's an obsession, scorned, crazy person" - friends don't use friends for free sex, free cybersex, free ideas, free help, free food and free fun & games (no one should ever USE someone - ever) - friends don't treat friends like objects they keep around just for what they can USE them for. 'Friends' is like 'Love' to them - a word they have no CLUE of the meaning of. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ CLICK HERE: Articles & information for Victims - Updated Daily "As soon as you feel that crazy sense of walking on eggshells, fending off N-rage, stop. Walk away." - Dr. M. Beck
Aug 25 - 2PM
quietude (not verified)
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what they say vs. what they mean...

Oh, how I love that game! That has been good for many laughs on the forums... Kudos to you Barbara on your fluency in "Narc-speak", and to decipher that babbling pile of poo that was his letter!
Aug 25 - 2PM
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nmale

what a load of crap its all lip service to make himself sound cool and interesting they havent got a clue they are naive and gullible and if you point that out to them they soon back down they never see the bigger picture;