what happens if the OW is a NARC too?

I wrote about this a few weeks ago. My ex-fiance' is a narc and married a narc. And they a both killing each other slowly. Neither wants to be with the other but the wife hangs on for the money, and he hangs on because she uses the kids to keep him in check. They both look like a HAM One thing he told me on the phone (and was proud) is that he taught his (then 12 year old) daughter how to make his drinks. I was mortified and said to him why in the world would you teach a child how to make alcoholic beverages and he said "because she's good at it". Psycho parents, teaching kids to be psycho alcoholics. Karma is a bit...... I feel sorry for the kids though

I think it'd be like sticking two "fighter fish" ( i don't know their accurate name)...in the same fish bowl. They'll attack each other to death. Probably the same with two narcs in a relationship.

together is like oil and water, his wife # 3 was a narc as well and they lived together for 6 months out of, lets see, 8 years, enough said..............

That's what my mother says, because her parents were BOTH Ns. Eva and Juan Peron were Narcs, with Juan being a dictator&Eva sleeping her way up the social ladder. I remember after meeting the ex-Psych prof's girlfriend, one of my friends said "Maybe she's just as narcissistic as he is." When I first met the ex-P, he CONSTANTLY accused me of being a Narc... and I think perhaps he thought he had found of his own. He WANTED a narcissistic soulmate. Sofia Tolstoy was normal when she met Leo... the problem was that she was attracted to his status (he was a famous writer at 34, she was 18&starstruck), there was a strong sexual attraction... and she disregarded both when marrying him. After 48 years of marriage to him, she became as much a Narc as he was. I'd rather Narcs find each other than them ruining normal people. The ex-P HATED it when I tried to play Cupid with him&his girlfriend, telling them how they were compatible, how she was this wonderful companion for him.... I might as well have given them those Kama Sutra massage oils&Victoria's Secret lingerie (heck, he might've liked it too) The ex-P's girlfriend/wife wrote a very dry, passionless piece about restoring dolls. She's a curator. Her job is working with objects. It had the passion of one of the ex-P's philosophical essays... in other words, as hot&steamy a read as a tax return or a driver's manual you get at the DMV.

My exN married a Narc. Let me tell you how it is going for them. She has such ego, that she pawns off her own children to appease HIM. What kind of mother is this? She allows the exN to verbally abuse her children because her PRIDE and EGO does not want to look at the truth and stand up for what is right. She wants what she wants and she is willing to push her own children to the side to appease her ego and the exN's. She is selfish. The exN lies to her face. She blindly accepts it to save face, save her pride and ego. She has verbally attacked me publically calling me the liar and cheater (far from it) and threatening to call my employer and she did the same to another ex of his. She is the perfect formula for him to do what he wants, with the least amount of effort. The combo makes a "It's you and me against the world!" Narc + Narc = no regard or care to what is best for the children or others. It's all about what I want! And when she does finally has had enough of the lies, there will be a big blowup and she is going to get really, really nasty. I've seen this side of her already. Whatever I have ever done isn't going to compare to what she is going to do to him.

Well, she will break his PRIDE, anyways. Narcs don't have hearts.

I couldn't stop chuckling about it, just the image - of two narcs scamming each other - almost like a comedy. Just desserts you would think, but since these people are emotionally shallow - I can't imagine that either would do the other much damage. You'd have to have a heart and normal emotions to be hurt and narcs don't qualify. Since you can't do anything about it, maybe you should just enjoy the show. It probably won't last a hot minute, so I wouldn't fret any about it.

one another via the application of constant narcissistic injury.... In any case it does not sound like the kind of relationship you or I want is it? Love