That it is the case with him=show's both traits.His N rages are so bad that he once threw a water bottle half full across the room in dentist office because they didn't get him in early enough,as,he got there early and demanded to be seen early.
I think I read something a while back saying that a psychopath hides the rages in public more and a sociopath doesn't, again I could be completely wrong, my ExP wouldn't really rage in public unless he was trying to get sacked from a job (to claim benefits by whatever false name he was using at the time), but he would be terribly violent behind closed doors to me.
http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-the-difference-between-a-psychopath-and-a-sociopath.htm
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_difference_between_a_narcissist_and_a_sociopath
Narcissism and Socio/Psychopathy exist on a continuum. Narcs are at the "lower level." The more they EXPLOIT and harm (EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, etc) the more up the scale to full blown socio/psychopathy they go
A Socio/Psychopath is ALWAYS ALSO a Narcissist
A Narcissist is NOT automatically a Socio/Psychopath
They can be a "Narcissistic Sociopath" but
they can NOT be a "Sociopathic Narcissist"
The line only moves one way. Bad to worse.
I'd say yours is a full blown sociopath; if I had to guess.
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I can't remember if I've asked this before.
Some of the posts I've seen and articles seem to suggest that narcs (and sociopaths) will back-down if you rage at them.
There is no way my ex would have done this, if I'd raised my voice, reacted to him, I know he would go beserk if we were in the same place. He'd usually threaten, shove, threaten to throw things at my head then run-off.
I'm pretty sure he had a personality disorder though, he fits the criteria as constantly put the focus on himself, blamed me for relationship breakdowns.. and did seriously injure someone once (supposedly in self-defense), as well as carry replica firearms when younger.. among other things.
Does he sound personality disordered? Just bit confused as he would not back down with me. I get angry at times but was too scared to raise my voice by the end.
If I stood up against him & tried to draw boundry lines . . . it just got him going even more. A few times I flew into a rage after being provoked. But, this was just turned against me. With my N, there was no way to win. There was no setting limits to his bad behavior. Truly the meaning of a roller-coaster relationship. I was so traumatized because I was so out of control. Nothing made any sense any more. I had no ability to influence the progress of events. I was just caught in the vortex of his rages, manipulations, and tantrums. He controlled virtually every detail of our lives, & he conrolled me. And he did this without inflicting a beating. But I was physically afraid of him. Actually the threat of violence is very frightening. Always waiting, wondering if & when he's gonna attack. Also a lack of control. Trauma = loss of control.
only SOMETIMES do they back down
some just ramp it up or turn your justifiable anger around on you.
While these guys follow a pattern there are millions of variations on the pattern
If he exploits without remorse, has no empathy and treats you like a THING rather than a person. HE'S got a PD
While I don't personally agree with everything here - this is a great list of characteristics of the Personality Disordered (DOES NOT have to have ALL to be PD!!!)
http://www.outofthefogsite.com/CommonBehaviors.html
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This is how I ended up in ICU, I fought back with words, then physically, I ended up beaten near to death, a lot of them don't back down as that would be seen as loosing and they just can't lose.
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Saying that though
Thats interesting
rache
question on rages...
Mine too
time to move on
Mine never backed down either
I agree!
Excellent Information