What Did I just do to Him

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#1 Oct 31 - 9PM
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What Did I just do to Him

My XN contacted me today about some business deals we had going. so he ask to come by, I said ok. I thought in my mind like " you said you was done why did you talk to him" moments, but long story short, I had reverse the roles in our relationship just before the End. and I crushed his ego to a point of no return "so I assume" but he want to talk about us and not just business, so I was like here we go, the pity party,

(N)I love you
(ME)the LORD loves you more
(N)I want to spend my life with you
(ME) what do your life actually consist of???

So I answered him just as he was playing his favorite game

He got angry and said I deserve all that, I played dumb and said "what????" he said those things you said to me, I have hurt you, put you down, belittled you. in the worst way. and I am sorry, so the droopy tears came down his face. I just looked at him didn't offer any support or solution. he still sobbing saying he has ruined so many people lives including his kids, his XWife, Family. he goes on to say that he knew he hurt people but could not stop it. he said something brought him to his knees last night. he have never felt it before, he said he realize that he have a problem, after being like this for over 20 yrs. he said everybody say the same thing about me, and for you to come in my life and see the same things when you only been around for 2 yrs, I felt something is not right with me. He said I don't want to be like this, I keep hurting people. and I have lost you in the process. he ask me would I be willing to go with him to seek help. I paused and looked at him like are you kidding me, he stood up and said. if you don't I understand but I am going to take myself, before I take my life.

is this another NARC attention, to win me back, it didn't work, however I wonder should I help him. what If I don't and he do something, was he reaching out to me.

Help answers Anybody ?????

Nov 1 - 4PM
Phoenyx
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Just horrible

Nov 1 - 10AM
NoMoreFreakBoy
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Scary stuff

Nov 1 - 9AM
lessonlearned
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sounds familiar!

Nov 1 - 9AM
boomer14
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More like what did he just do to you...

Nov 1 - 8AM
Sugaplum
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Same crap. Different day.

Nov 1 - 8AM
Happy lover girl
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Thanks Everybody

Nov 1 - 7AM
Janie53
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Happy Lover Girl

Nov 1 - 8AM (Reply to #14)
Happy lover girl
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thanks you, I took you all

Nov 1 - 5AM
Fellforaclown
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Dangerous....

Nov 1 - 8AM (Reply to #12)
Happy lover girl
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Yes I think Im very special,

Nov 1 - 3AM
Elizabeth Bennet
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Give his words exactly the

Nov 1 - 8AM (Reply to #10)
Happy lover girl
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Thanks you sweetie , and I

Oct 31 - 9PM
Done sourcing
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What is the up side to seeing

Nov 1 - 8AM (Reply to #8)
Happy lover girl
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Thank you, I felt that anyway

Oct 31 - 9PM
Hunter
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Typically,Narcs are too vain

Nov 1 - 4PM (Reply to #6)
Phoenyx
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911

Nov 1 - 4PM (Reply to #5)
Phoenyx
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911

Nov 1 - 8AM (Reply to #4)
Happy lover girl
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I felt that , he never ever

Oct 31 - 9PM
Trixy
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I don't know your story

Nov 1 - 8AM (Reply to #2)
Happy lover girl
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I felt like it was a game,