What Attracts Them

SEE LINK IN TOP POST ~~~~~~~~~~~~ "Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.

Psycho Boy did the SAME to me. DO NOT RESPOND BLOCK HIS EMAILS - any new one's you get - BLOCK if he makes new accounts? Write to his Internet Provider and tell them he is HARASSING you without getting into too much. if he has the time & money to TRY to sue you I'd be very surprised - even then he's on thin ice since it's your OPINION. He's out of luck. He'd have to sue you in the U.S.A. Too bad so sad. Here's some articles to put on your blog. Since blogger is hosted in the USA - it's subject to it's laws. MOST IMPORTANT: http://www.citmedialaw.org/legal-guide/publishing-personal-and-private-information ALSO IMPORTANT: http://cyberpaths.blogspot.com/2008/01/is-it-legal-to-expose-these-predators.html THIS CASE GOES RIGHT TO THE HEART OF WHAT P.D. is threatening you about: http://www.citmedialaw.org/threats/hollis-v-cunningham (loads of links at bottom, too) OTHER: http://www.acslaw.org/acsblog http://www.eff.org/bloggers (this site has some great graphic banners to put on your site. STAND UP TO THAT BULLY, JANE!!!) http://tinyurl.com/yo4amb http://www.netfreedom.org/ http://www.citizen.org/litigation/briefs/IntFreeSpch/ He wants to scare you. DON'T LET HIM. DO NOT RESPOND TO HIM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! Screw him. AND FOR GOD'S SAKE START THERAPY!!!!! LOOK HOW HE'S TRIGGERED YOUR PTSD WITH A STUPID THREAT!! (I can even give you a little widget, if you know his IP - to block him from your website) You should write to Yahoo and tell them to block him and delete the email account as he opened in YOUR name simply to harass you - because its IDENTITY THEFT. Be sure to say you are "willing to press charges" if its not removed... that ought to get Yahoo's attention. P.D. has clearly violated their Terms of Service (TOS) to do this to you: http://help.yahoo.com/l/us/yahoo/mail/original/index.html Psycho-Boy did smear me for 2 years... I remained calm and spoke my truth. I provided clear evidence to back up what I said. I saw you were on my blog about him http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com - so I included articles & excerpts about why pathologicals smear and how they do it by LEAVING OUT KEY INFORMATION. I linked to his smear in fact. After 2 years he was forced to removed his smear blog and has tried to erase what he said was the "true story" (gag) of what happened. I know he comes here and I have every intention of linking to things he's done to other bloggers to cut them off, cut them down and intimidate them when he doesn't agree to them. Using their own B.S. against them is simple when you stand STRONG and STAND IN TRUTH. No one, I repeat, NO ONE can tell you how to feel... even that jerk. THIS is what he's trying to do: http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2008/03/responsibility-wrap-narcissist-hurts.html James? Anything else to tell Jane as you have a blog about your ex which names her, also. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Articles & information for abuse victims - Updated Daily Online Coaching for Victims of Narcissists/ Psychopaths

While I agree that they look for weakness whenever looking for new sources. I have come to a personally understanding that a person who is compassionate and giving is also (to them anyway) a type of weakness they look for in people. There are some victims who came from good supportive loving home that still fall for this con. I know my greatest strength is also my greatest weakness. They will use that to their advantage. Still others say oh, just have good strong healthy boundary markers. Yes, these do help but remember they wear down our boundaries over time and sometimes this can take years. So even that is no guarantee that one won’t be conned and expose to these type of human parasites. Any relationship with them is both dysfunctional and unhealthy, and I do mean business relationships as well. So the only way for myself is education and training to see one before any damage can be done. But sometimes even this isn’t enough and some still get through the cracks and if that happens then damage control and a fast exit is your only sure bet before any long term damage is done. Because this disorder is based on a defense mechanism gone terribly wrong, I believe they do this instinctively whenever looking for their next victim and it may not always be a conscience thought. I believe in a way this testing brought this to the surface. It’s almost like “selective memory” and not really conscience thought as we know it. Only “useful” information is stored but other information is ether not received or block. Whatever the case may be more testing is needed and hopefully will be done in the future. http://james-personalitydisorder.blogspot.com/

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That was really interesting. It suddenly reminded me of some early comments I made that must have attracted my N. Because we were involved in all kinds of debates about religion and politics and such..and I was an articulate woman that could hold her own...I also LOVED jokes and was very friendly even in political debates. I did not, IMO, show any signs of my inner vulnerability publicly. Though I talked about my faith, and volunteer work, so that points definitely to "feeling responsible" for other people. But reading that article I had a light bulb moment...in those early discussions, just prior to him contacting me privately (and LYING HIS ASS OFF about his spiritual confusion)..I had made mention several times of my parents losing everything in Katrina, and the devastation there. I was using that situation as an example of some point I was making...I wasn't moaning and crying about it...but..but but but...I now remember reading that they will take advantage of people who've had recent deaths in the family, stuff like that. They look for those points of vulnerability. AND...in talking in general terms about whether we have souls...I said something about sitting at someone's death bed, and what it's like watching someone die. I didn't give any other details, and actually, that had been years ago, when my 95 year old grandmother died, so I was not in a state of bereavement...ahhh...but I *might* have been. ;) OMG what an absolutely vile person he is.