I was having relationship problems when I met the ex N. So I guess that makes me pretty vulnerable now to another N.
Knowledge is power! Not going to let that happen again. Gotta stay strong and feisty!
In my case, the N's supply came from all walks of life. Some women were sad low income vulnerable, and others were very confident and successful. He'd do anyone. Thats really what the truth is. But both wives were a bit vulnerable in the "missing father" department. Both were caretakers. Fixers. Long suffering. Yet, told it like it was. Questioned. Called him on his behavior. Expected him to honor his obligations. But forgiving.
I think he compartmentalized woman. Some were just for sex, some for money and power, some for mothering, and some supplied a home base or headquarters to work out of.
The 3 married woman who he worked on were all very beautiful, smart, powerful woman. AND they belonged to another man (one belonged to his boss, the other WAS his boss!). For him, that's like getting the gold in the olympics! LOL
pathologicals compartmentalize EVERYTHING
even 'reality'
it's impossible for us normals to grasp, isn't it?
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"Pathologicals only discard the best, most precious of gems of people... not the worst. They despise the strong, principled, decent & honest. Their discarding of you is then their highest commendation of your worth!" - A.V.
Thats why we have to stay strong and feisty
In my case, the N's supply
compartmentalization