What are you doing this weekend?

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#1 Sep 4 - 7AM
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What are you doing this weekend?

For those of us in the US this is a long 3-day weekend.

I want to remind everyone to PLAN AHEAD so you don't get 'lonely' and CALL or TEXT your N in desperation!!

Change your sheets
rearrange a room
get new curtains
(the above will help remove reminders of him)
get your nails/ hair done
buy new shoes
make plans with friends
go to a movie alone and eat popcorn
browse the mall
clear out your closet
bake a cake for yourself

Just do not contact your N! Planning ahead will help you deal with it.

Sep 4 - 7PM
grossot
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so much better

Great! You all derserve these long weekends. This is my first holiday with my daughter in 10 months including our birthdays and mother's day because of N's greed. So tonight she and I are celebrating by eating a picnic dinner on the floor and having girls night with movies and makeovers! Yea! I love my girl soooooo much! Happy Labor Day all! nolongercontrolled
Sep 4 - 1PM
tina
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Long Weekend

Thank you Barbara for bringing up this hard subject of long weekends. If regular weekends were not hard enough, here we go with a long one. Your ideas are right on. I woke up this morning thinking of this very thing and in my mind started putting together my list of things to do so I wouldn't: > Sit around and feel sorry for myself > Be tempted to check his website to see where he is booked (he's a musician) My list is as follows: > Work in my garden > Check on my Mother > Laundry > Window shop looking at all new fall clothes > Clean out closet > Go to a county fair in KY > Bake a cake for my wonderful neighbor that watered my garden when I was out of town May not sound like much but its what I want to do w/o the worry of running around making it all about him. Life is good. God bless all of you :) P.S. perutoo - if you were close, I would love to drop in and hear your band. I'm sure you are great :)
Sep 4 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
Scoop
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A hand across the ocean my

A hand across the ocean my American cousin .The band are good but im rubbish , i have the nick name as "one beat out Peru " but im getting there lol x
Sep 4 - 12PM
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Great Ideas Barbara!

Great idea. I forgot it was a long weekend. I like how some things on the list cost nothing at all. We have a local outdoor festival I hope to attend. That's always fun..music, dancing. I've gotten most of his things out of the house, but there is still a little bit to go. His toolbox, a box of wires (haha),...not sure what to do with photographs. I want to go through them, but afraid to see those that spark memories. And my christmas box! I don't want to open that at Christmas only to find "us" memorabilia. What do we do with them? Any ideas anyone?
Sep 4 - 1PM (Reply to #3)
neveragain
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Planning is Good!

One of my motto's is: "Always have something to look forward to!" Even if it's a luxurious bath or a nice long walk. It doesn't have to cost anything but sometimes things like a pedicure or a new pair of shoes really feel good too. My list includes: Changing my sheets, vacumning the house (not my fave but it needs to get done!), walking my dog, watering plants, taking my friend out for her birthday, watching a taped copy of Weeds, lay out in the backyard (behind my big umbrella so I don't have tan lines - wink, wink), play volleyball on Sunday from 4:30 until sunset, taking some baths, read my latest good book (I just finished Eddie's Bastard which was really good, now I'm reading Broken for You)and after that or in between those things, just see what else comes up. I used to go out a lot with my girlfriends. But, since I'm not interested in meeting anyone and my N-Radar over-takes all my thoughts when I do go out, I just don't go anymore. Oh, Dolce, as far as the photographs....don't look at them, just put them in a box and put them in a closet. I'm not sure about the Christmas box. It's only September....wait on that one for a while. Hugs to everyone and I hope you all can plan Something To Look Forward To! neveragain
Sep 4 - 1PM (Reply to #2)
Scoop
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This is why i love this site

This is why i love this site , it feels like there is someone there all the time who understands , i had a great week away last week with friends and lots of beer , this weekend i plan to play in the band and go with the flow . I guess now all my friends think im fine as its "long enough" to get over my ns and i supose in normal break ups after 11 weeks one would expect to have done the majority of the work but im still crying all the time and its a constant battle to fend off that sick black feeling that looms. This week im coming to terms with the fact it really is over , there are rummors that some poor girl (who i know, all be it not very well) has fallen for his charms , at first i just crumpled and that dark feeling stayed with me for the whole day and i began to hate her in an irrational manor , but today i feel very sorry for her as i know what she is in for , she is so young and bright eyed , clever and confident, oh dear, oh dear . This man is so good at the charm , girls fall at his feet , i did and went for the ride for a whole year but not with out a fight which was eventualy my down fall or his , which ever way i had experence of life to sence something was very wrong with him and i ripped of the mask several times . I fear someone young is going to fall like a brick . Or maybe she wont be as accomerdating as i was , who knows .I thought of telling her but i will never be believed such is his hold in the community ,I still have my good name with my friends as they just think it was a normal break up and i learnt very early on not to tell them what i know about him .Maybe she will break his heart but then i remember there is no heart to break . Its hard watching a girl going like a lamb to the slaughter. We share the same friends and so far this has worked with out any bad feelings , i feel i couldnt handle the stress in starting a scandle and i would only look like a twisted person if i say a word . Maybe its just me he would treat in such a way , if this girl does what she is told (and many would do as they would be so pleased to just have him by their side , for a while at least )she will be ok .I plan to keep an eye on her and wate to see the lights go out in her eyes .She needs to experience the abuse at first hand and recognise it as abuse before i can step in .Still its hard . And as for what to do with his stuff , throw it in the bin , burn it , tear it up into tiny bits then bury it in the garden , i did this and i found a pagan cleansing ritual on the internet (not that i am a believer but i will try anything at this point ) It felt good as it felt i was doing something to get rid of him , not just sitting around waiting for the feelings to go away . I wish everyone a better weekend than the last . Peru x