Were you there when a former victim broke NC?

Thank you so much for giving me a very powerful image! Funny how we ALL know exactly what you meant when you wrote that too - did you ever get such an epiphany that you involuntarily took a huge, deep breath? That's what your post about him doing a Snoopy dance when the ex's broke NC just did for me. I posted about breaking NC in another blog and all the ridicule and derogatory, insulting responses could not accomplish what your adorable "Snoopy dance" reference just did! If I knew where you lived, I'd send you roses for that one! THANK YOU

You re right, ruby01. My x did seem giddy and excited and full of energy at times like that. At the time I didn't realize ow-type contact (and fooling me or tricking me) was the source of it, but looking back and trying to understand the lying by omitting that he did, I see how what u say is exactly what was happening. And of course, ow or previous-main-woman (me) contact is always welcome to them, cuz it lets them continue what they do best...keep the play going. I don't know..it's too hurtful to realize what he did, n kept adding more and more hurtful components to, just when I thought the limits of hurt and misery had been reached.

Nope, but THANK YOU for giving me the mental image of the Snoopy dance to put into my NC Survival Kit! Whatever the opposite of the Snoopy Dance would be, is what N is likely doing, after he tried to hoover me recently, and I didn't bite. Take that! HA! It feels glorious!

Oh, what an interesting thread! Yes. One of his ex wives contacted him via email (he told me)...when she noticed his profile pic on facebook had changed to him and me, together. She supposedly made deragatory comments about me. Not sure if I fully believed him, to be honest. He was big into triangulation. But, I remember him being filled with glee too, when he told me the story. Isn't it interesting that we look back at these things, and it was like a foreshadowing of what our fate was to eventually be?

Well I was kind of. My Ns mother passed right before we got together and of course N went running to his ex for pity and supply. Although, they didn't get physical until a few months into our relationship, he obviously began to play on her emotions and she opened her heart back up to him. He would say how she was blowing up his phone and texting him like crazy. Until now, I couldn't understand why she'd still want him after the way they broke up ( physical abuse). Now I know what it feels like. There was also one other ex that he initiated contact with first. After many false promises, I'm sure, she fell for him again and begin calling like crazy. I did talk with her after I broke up with him and she told me he contacted her out of the blue professing his love for her and then disappeared. They build you up, only to tear you down. Bastards!!!

Just goes to show its one big game to them.. Hunter