Were you good at pretending things were a-ok with your ex?
Were you good at pretending things were a-ok with your ex?
I had a light bulb moment tonite. I think about you all a lot since coming to this site, and pray for you. This whole journey to healing is hard, but we can do it. Strength in numbers! So, think about this for a moment. When you were dating your ex n's...weren't you pretending to be happy around others a lot? I look back at my relationship with the ex, and EVERYONE was shocked when we broke up. SHOCKED. Well. I should say they weren't shocked that he fucked things up. lol They weren't shocked that I ended it. (they know him well) They were shocked though, because I always defended him to others, and always made him out to be this great guy. So, many didn't see it coming as quickly as it did.
SO. I ASK YOU ALL THIS. If you could have pretended to be happy as can be with your ex's...who's to say the OW aren't doing the same exact thing? So, when you see those FB pics...and sit in wonder...has he changed? Is he treating her better? Think again. That happy face you see on the OW, probably was your face too, in pics....even though you were NOT happy...once upon a narc.
;) Hope this helps!
yes but I did not know it
Fake Happiness
Yes, I faked happiness and lived a lie for years.
I think to truely feel happy
I was the queen of denial!
Diedre..
He'd tell me I was pretending to be happy
Good point, Deidre, and
caligirl
Yep, so true!