We slept together AGAIN..and I initiated it...please help..
We slept together AGAIN..and I initiated it...please help..
I don't know what happened to my self respect. Last week after not seeing him for 5 months we slept together- he pretty much initiated it. It was hurried, and on his terms. This time- I wanted it to be on my terms and I invited him over to my place.
Here are some of the things he said:
"I think there is something wrong with me..when I look back to all my exes they all got a little unstable."
"Don't you have a problem with me being here? Next week I will be going on dates with other girls, it just doesn't seem right."
"I don't want a relationship right now. Lucy was serious enough (referring to his rebound relationship right after he broke up with me)"
"I'm hoping in a couple years you won't be so emotional, but I know before then you will meet a guy that will accept you for you..for all of you..which I couldn't do.."
I told him it was cruel of him to keep on saying in a few years he hopes we end up together, so I forced him to tell me it was over for good. Then we had sex. Right when it was done he told me he had to go to a friend's party. I cried like a child, and he left. He texted me shortly after "thanks for being so cool about everything. I'm going to miss you so much."
I got wasted. Called him, asked him to pick me up. He wouldn't and he told me he "knew this was going to happen." We hung up and I texted him I loved him...and I will stop now.
He pretty much is admitting he is an asshole (not sure if that's a narc thing or what) and I still let him in- still let him sleep with me. It's like I'm constantly battling in my head how to end things before I officially start NC. I feel rejected. I guess my hope was for him to want to date me again so I could say NO thank you. Spending time with him I realize we can never go back. I could never trust him, but I still look to him for my self worth. Damn it- I want my dignity so bad. I want him to feel I lost an amazing woman. But last night I realized he does not want me.
I want to go NC...but I am so mad once again..I was too nice to him. I feel so out of whack. Please help- you guys are my life line.
I'm with NinjaGirl et. al
good advice from everyone
Listen to Ninja Girl!
NC
You're not going to like this
I totally agree with
ninjagirl
smileyfacepr
I can't get how they can be
scraps and crumbs
Hey Sarah....
STOP!!
smileyfacepr
Sarah787
You will be ok
Oh dear ... this was such a
sorry meant to say
commiserations. you sound
you had a weak moment and
almostlydia
You can do it