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#1 Jun 14 - 9AM
Happy1
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We can't live in two places at once

I have had a bad night with multiple dreams of my narc. I know when I have dreams of him it starts the whole process of me thinking of the past and dwelling on things for the day. I think it's hard but today I keep reminding myself I can't be two places at once. I can't live in the past and present and need to keep living in the now. This is a long journey to recovery.

Jun 14 - 11AM
Hunter
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Oh gee, another nightmare!

Oh gee, another nightmare! I was too tired to dream not even about Johnny:) Hunter
Jun 14 - 9AM
dolphingirl
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dream

I dreamnt of the narc last night too, I dreamnt that I was getting ready to go out with him and I was looking forward to it. Just shows the amount of confusion that he created deep within my psyche. When we did go out to dinner, he would always have to sit facing the door or where there were the most people. That way he could check out the women as they came in and I would hear comments like, "good rack and nice face" or he would stare so much at young women and I mean much younger women than he, people would look at me, like what is wrong with him and here I am dreaming of looking forward to going out with him, crazy stuff and embarrassing that I put up with it
Jun 14 - 11AM (Reply to #3)
spinning
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dolphin and hap, I feel

for you having these types of dreams. In the last dream I had about the disordered one I was involved with (and it was months ago) he was dressed in camo, standing on my deck, staring in my living room window pointing his glock at me. It was a reality-based dream. He did all but pull the trigger. No sub-conscious longing there! Things always look better in the light of day. This too shall pass and yes, the journey is lengthy but reclaiming oneself and peace of mind is so worth it. Peace and strength to all who stop here from, (not) spinning. NOT AN OPTION. I REJECT ALL CHAOS.

spinning

Jun 14 - 9AM
Sparrow
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It is a very long

It is a very long journey........keep up the good work! Stop looking in the rear view mirror! Keep smiling and stay strong!