The way many of you are treating Lisa is appalling.....

Since everyone seems to have an opinion about all the drama, I feel I must put my 2 cents in and say what's on my mind. I came to this board after I read Lisa's book. It was a great book. I felt as I wasn't alone in this problem I had w/ XN. I joined this website as I felt we shared a common problem. I felt comforted by various members when I was in my hurting stage. I relied on several women for uplifting comments etc. Though I felt Barbara was blunt in her replies, I knew she would give support somehow. Though she was strict and to the point, it did give me some triggers- I felt alittle scared and reprimanded..... For hurting? When others give support to one another, a bond is somewhat formed. And just b/c I felt sad from several members departure, doesn't mean I chose their way of thinking. I did feel as if it was "mutiny of the bounty". It was between certain members and Lisa and it should have been private. If a certain member had an issue w/ the moderator or website owner, then she should have called or emailed her. But to try to persuade others in her thinking process was totally out of line and disrespectful. I do not know Lisa at all, but I did enjoy her book and have read a lot her blogs. I do agree that members have a right to speak their mind, but not at the cost of someone else's feelings. We are here to support one another as we share something (not good) in common. I am grateful for this website and for Lisa providing it for us to use. Let's' be kind to one another:-)

Thank you, Monica and others for your support. It means a lot to me. I will not shut the site down, but my family is begging me to do so as it has caused a lot of strife in my life lately. I cannot risk losing my job again, which means I cannot moderate the boards during the day and post articles the way Barbara did. Like I said, if someone is interested in being a moderator, let me know. As one of you pointed out, I don't think we necessarily need a babysitter. I think we've come too far to let some drama mamas ruin things for us. I'm sorry if I sounded mad in my "Really?" post, but I am mad. I am not afraid to admit it. I am mad and I had to speak my mind. I'm sure I'll get criticized for it, but I'm sick of tip-toeing around this whole thing. I had to say my peace. I believe those who leave as a result of my comments were not meant to be here in the first place. As I said, thank you for the support, but no more, k? My hope is that we can put an end to all the noise and drama on this board tonight. It is not helping anyone. All the people I reached at the book fair this weekend have probably already left the site after observing all the in-fighting. We lost a real opportunity to connect with some women that need some help. I gave away a lot of books over the weekend and reached a lot of people who were very interested in this topic. Let's remember why we're all here. We share a common bond. No one can understand what it's like to love a narcissist unless they have been through it themselves. We could talk until we're blue in the face to family and friends about it, but they will never get it. This is a place where we can be understood immediately without having to explain it all. We can just come here and relate and be heard and understood. Let's remember that's why we're here and get back to supporting one another! Hugs, Lisa

I cant be grateful enought o Lisa for this forum and Im not going anywhere and I hope she does not shut down the site cause of this crap..she can ban anyone she feels she needs to and whoever doesnt like it can leave on their own. I suppoert Lisa 100%, this site has also helped me survive the last couple of mnths! Hugs to all

Amen, Monica. I agree.

I've stated my opinions on this in the other thread. I totally agree with you. It's appalling and embarrassing that so many grown women are acting so completely immature. To everyone that dislikes Lisa....why don't you go elsewhere! I feel so angry I am literally shaking as I write this.