Was your narc unaffectionate?
Was your narc unaffectionate?
I just want to know how common this is.
When we were a new couple,he was affectionate maybe the first 3 or 3 months.But at a certain point, the affection went away--exept for hand-holding.
And as far as intimacy,he was indifferent at best,then that too was history.He still kept seeing me on a regular basis,and calling every day,but wasnt treating me like a girlfriend (exept for holding hands and calling me honey). He never made much of an effort to do anything fun together...just wanted to go for walks,hang-out,and talk about himself and things that were important to him. It was really wierd. I felt like a walking sounding board.
One time,when we had only been together about 5 months,after i had stood by him through many coke-bindges (including a mo of him being locked-up when i went and got all his things out of his apt for him),and after my family and i continuing to welcome him with open arms....he turned to me and said "Maybe some day we'll just be really good friends." GROOVY! I guess i shouldve walked away at that point,but stayed for a year longer.
He denied losing his feelings for me,and insists he loves me,etc. I dont get it. Its over,but i guess im still trying to make sence of things.
Did anyone elses narc act like this?
mine was...
affection
Mine was always controlling
ifinallygotit
yeah but not the same guy
ifinallygotit
simularities
Absolutely!
Journey on...
very affectionate at first
unaffectionate
cold as ice!!!
I had plenty of snuggling
Snuggle and Spoon
Yes. Mine was unemotional as
Cold Shoulder