Was your narc attractive or exceptionally handsome/beautiful

Mine is, but he's short and has very small hands (not small in other areas though!) One thing about mine, he looks different in every single picture I have of him. The chameleon in him really stands out, even when I was under his spell I noticed how different he could look from one minute to the next.

My ex-N is defined by most women as hot or a Greek God. You know what's funny though? I've always been drawn to really intelligent men...I find that when I'm attracted to a man's mind, i'm pretty much attracted to him all around. Back before I knew what the ex-N was, I use to think he was the most attractive man I'd ever seen. However, he's the only man who lacked any intelligence from any of the men I've been attracted to before. He was more eye candy than anything...isn't really cultured, not smart...just the bare basics of common sense. He's able to fake being smart, but if you asked him ANY in depth questions about anything, he wouldn't know. He doesn't read, watch movies, travel or do much of anything...except workout, watch football and go to bars/clubs and drink. Now when I think of him all I think of, is a disgusting N who deserves nothing but pain and suffering that he has caused and continues to cause others. TovaBella

He is the proverbial tall, dark, handsome, throw in the foreign accent and the girls here just swooned over him. Also, looking good was always a top priority, dressed up to just go hang out in cafe's with his buddies... And then in his country the appeal was/is, ahh, he's a us citizen now, he's got money and if I make nice he'll take me to america. But he is still handsome to me very much... :(

they can be many different things to different people. They mirror the behavior of the person they are with that makes them fatally attractive.

Ive been attractive all my life my oldest friends always said Beautiful, that didnt make me a narc. Mine was good looking, handsome, and spent the better part of his life at gym he was very driven to look built. he passed his unhealthy obssession to look body builder hero on to his son. I think the love of self makes them seem confident and confidence and arrogance when coupled with mystery which they create around themselves, are fatally attractive.

Mr. N looks like your all American classically good looking guy...a lot of Brad Pit, a dash of Paul Walker, with a little Kevin Bacon and a body that made me melt. Oh yeh...he knew he was good looking, but loved it when I told him so.

Mines was not attractive to me. He was someone who grew on me. Part of my reason for being with him was I had got out of a relationship with a nice looking broke jerk who also was abusive. So I thought if I scaled down a bit I would meet a better man. SMH was I ever wrong. My N thinks he is all that when some woman tells him these things or pays attention to him . He thrives off of compliments and tells me everytime someone gives him one. He goes to gyms alot and works out alot. Ever since I've known him he has had a gym membership . One time he took me on a visitor's pass and I was getting some stares and looks from other men and needless to say that was my only time I went with him to the gym.

The most ridiculous thing happened to me so women, be warned: When I met him i was "done with the bad boys" and had decided to go for nice guy, even if it meant boring. He looked good, he had been extremely hot just a few year before, but had started the process of putting on some weight. His face is beautiful... Yeah he's good looking. But not a typical "bad boy" face at all, i really thought i had finally found my "boring nice guy" lol....

The ex-Psych prof, when I *FIRST* met him, was tanned, slim, and handsome... and despite being a native-born Californian (he married an Angeleno), he had been in New England from the age of 7. I really expected him to bring back a supermodel/glamorous bimbo girlfriend... but she ended up being very androgynous&manly(!!!) She was more of the Trinity character in "The Matrix" than say, Christy Turlington, Linda Evangelista or Padma Lakshmi (the Top Chef hostess who graduated from the same college as him) When I first met the ex-P, he literally struck poses. Once, he came to the coffee shop my freshman year, with his shirt open to his navel (it was obvious he shaved his chest)... and I was in awe. He could've passed as Colin Firth's twin. They looked similar. But over a 4 year period, his looks went downhill. His crows' feet became more pronounced. He paunched out. By the final D&D, he had a beer belly. His teeth were rotting away (they had been since my freshman year) After the final D&D, I told him that since he saw teaching merely as a *ROLE*, he should've joined his girlfriend in LA, got himself an agent, hit the gym, slimmed down, brushed his teeth... and he could've been an actor/model. It was sad watching him getting fat&lose his looks. He went downhill... and he's never gotten it back. As one poster here said, he looks like a "fat grandpa."

Classic bad boy, very cute boyish charm, big grin, fun loving, tall, athletic and confident with women - hot at all handsome but he thought he was. I was not attracted to him at all at first - too goofy but the charm was seductive (and his ex fame is in an area that is of interest to me so we had that in common).

I have been with some good-looking men, but my exN wasn't one of them. His face was "average" but that was perhaps generous. He had a big nose and skeletal cheekbones, sandy brown hair (wavy and a bit long), most of the time he had facial hair. He had a good body though, not real tall 5'11-6'. His lure, if you will, was his music and charm. He wrote and played music, was witty, and funny. He could play on words, and I love that. When he would play music at home, he had a microphone that he always sang into, even by himself. He would act like he was performing. He never played in a band or performed. He was a wannabe. My bf before him was handsome, 6'3", brown hair (nicely groomed), and clean shaven. I think I was drawn in and intrigued by my exN. I used to compare it to Phantom of the Opera. ExN being the phantom, lol, who I ended up choosing. I should say I am pretty, at least I get told that a lot.

Oh lord mine was so hansom it made you weep . Take last Saturday night when i was at my gig and narc came outside whilst i was having a fag and as he walked his narc walk a women i have never met before who was talking stopped talking and just stared at him open mouthed and even said "WOW" It made me laugh a bit and i felt like saying to her "dont encourage him for god sake " he was giving it the large , he looked almost spritual and full of supply as he had just kissed the ow infrount of me and he had come to me for another dose of energy but i didnt give him any .. Its funny though as i have pictures of him where he looks just like a lizard . A narc can change his persona to who ever he is with at the time and there has been reports of women being out and seeing her narc husband and not even recognizing him as his whole persona had changed , his body languge etc was completely diffrent from who she knew .I kind of get that as my narc has many personas .. its not the same as normal people change a bit to suite who we are with , i mean i am a bit diffrent if i talk to my boss compared to my girlfrieds , a narc psycopath can become a completely diffrent person .. the funnyest persona i saw in my narc was when he was talking to some young black kids and my narc started to talk in a west indian accent to them lol ... i just wanted the world to swollow me up i was so embarrised .. he is such a looser .. xx

I think narcette is cute...pretty But when I was under her spell...she was STUNNING and GORGEOUS to me :) She always let me know she was more attractive than I was....there was an element of competitiveness she had with me. I don't know why....I simply worshipped her and didn't try to compete at all.... ~KG

Actually, at first, I thought he looked old and ugly, and even kind of cadaverous. I think I saw him for a long time, as being more attractive than he really was because I blinded myself to his overall old and ugliness. I'm not talking about a normal elderly appearance but something far worse like he was half dead, but I ignored those feelings. I wish I had stayed with those first impressions of him. Ewww...UGLY! He looked positively repulsive to me. I think I was looking at his real self that he hides behind his "good guy" mask. To make him palatable to me, I had look for a few characteristics I could find reasonably attractive like his brown eyes and smile. Otherwise, his body looked kind of old, deformed and withered to me. Just before the D&D, he turned old and ugly again. Me thinks because I was being cut off, he wasn't getting to my life force vitality, and was looking as dead outside as he was inside.

Very much the handsome devil. Literally. >.

but at the time, he was to me....