ha me either, and just wait and take a glance at them when they are 70, they wont be luring any 20 year olds at that age, well unless that flash a few thousand dollars at them and the woman is a hooker. Its like here love my old body and limp thingy I will pay you to touch me, yuck and ick
Well, mine is going to inherit a boat load of money. So for him it will be him, his limp thingie, strappy shoes, and some unfortunate victim who wears size 8 narrow. He'll probably require his home care giver to wear them when he's on his deathbed.
I know women I worked with checked him out and thought he was alright, but he was shorter than me and chubby. Since leaving I have been told he looks horrendous, the last time I saw him he really looked black, which was really weird, like an aura but in his face.
He was obsessed with his appearance though and used charm and "wit" to win anyone over
really weird you should say that he looked black in his face like some sort of an aura. My N was good looking expecially his profile. I used to stare at his profile when he was driving it was so handsome but my friends thought he was grosse although that may be to do with the fact they didnt really like/trust him from day one.He was also obsessed with his looks.
SInce going NC 10 weeks ago now ive heard he looks drawn, is drinking a lot and has lost weight(its such a shame he cant change, then thered be none of this and we could live happy ever after) I saw him driving passed me. He didnt see me thank goodness. He had lost weight on his face and looked drawn but I remember thinking it looked almost black. Weird!!! Anyone else seen it in theirs??
when I had lunch with Psycho-Boy in Fall of 2003 - he looked 'black' too. Like a bad smell around him. Really dark...
It actually made my stomach hurt. Yet I ignored it!!!
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Both of my Ns were good looking, trim, full heads of hair, etc. Rather uncommon for guys to look this good in their 40s. But it's strange because they didn't immediately strike me as that good looking when I met them. They became more so to me during the "pretend" phase when they were behaving and treating me like the woman of their dreams.
I showed my therapists pictures of them (so she could put faces to the stories) and she was in awe of how good looking N #1 was. I remember thinking when she said it that he looked really ugly to me since the mask fell off. And she remarked about N#2 that he looked really "cocky". His mask had just begun to slip the day before that photo as taken. Hmmmm...
Ghostbuster, both of the pathological guys I was with were not someone I was attracted to initially, they became attractive when they went into their charm overdrive, then later they weren't.
With my last ex, he had a body like a Greek God as he spent so much time boxing, weight-lifting, running. If we argued he'd walk around with his top-off afterwards to try and let me see how great he was, and when we split he sent me half-naked pics of himself boxing (I later realised he'd sent these to me and 3 other women, to see which of us would bite, I wasn't special).
He had big blue eyes, a gorgeous mouth and smile. And when he turned on the charm some women loved him. But saying all this, when I first met him 16 years ago, I remembered thinking, "stay away, this guy thinks he's god's gift". When I met up with him later he got me when I was vulnerable, did the usual flattery and I started to find him more attractive.
Later in the relationship I went off him, he reminded me off a wolf.
I have been attracted to my past partners for a variety of reasons, but after this experience I would really think twice before going out with a good-looking man. I know it sounds stupid but for some reason it's how I feel. I intend to spend ages trying to get to know the next person I'm with before falling.
And I'll stay away from people with laser-wattage charm. Even if that's unfair too.
My mom had a saying when I was young: "Never marry a good looking guy. He'll always have a wandering eye." I used to just roll my eyes at her in my teenaged angst, but it seems like decent advice after two good looking Ns/Ps.
My 1st N and I had a really stupid conversation (looking back now) which started with him saying that a good looking woman would only marry a non-good looking guy if he has money. I countered with "well, maybe she's just sick of good looking a-holes who are just in love with themselves and treat her badly." He had a deer in the headlights look on his face and it just didn't compute. It was all about looks with him. And he thought he was sooooo good looking. He was, but not as good looking as he thought. He once looked at a picture of himself from one of our vacations and remarked that he looked just like George Clooney. I laughed and said "well, I don't think George Clooney would wear athletic socks and sneakers on the beach like you." Kinda mean, but his mask was beginning to slip. Oh yea...and he was so cheap he'd never buy new clothes for himself. He insisted that everyone tells him he just looks great in a white t-shirt and jeans. I confirmed that he would, in fact, look good in those clothes, but only if his t-shirts didn't have permanent red wine, pasta sauce and chocolate stains. Buy some new Hanes t-shirts--they come in a 3-pack for about $7. Sheesh.
Never marry a good looking guy. He'll always have a wandering ey
my mother told me the same thing!!!!!!!! I was actually usually very very leery of good looking men, Thought they were poon hounds and I didnt need that headache to worry about. That is really unfair because there are some good looking men that are wonderful too but they would really have to prove themselves to me before I would look twice, women always flock around them too and I never gave them the satisfaction of my time or interest, you have to look alot deeper than just a nice body and handsome face. If mine wasnt a Psychopath and professional con man I would have probably passed him right up, but he had the skills to convince me he was genuine, I now can see who is real and what is too good to be true, not to say I couldnt be fooled but not for long, give me a few days of someone that would sweep me off my feet and I would be running in the other direction. I have a new rule too there would be no sex for at least three to four months, that is just self preservation on my part, if they cant accept that they can leave
never regarded any 70 year old man as "hot".
unless that flash a few thousand dollars at them
Mine was ok looking
sinead
black
eww
Both good looking
that happened to me too...
Yep, would be leery of good looking
Never marry a good looking guy. He'll always have a wandering ey
I've had good looking N's