Was your N a drama queen?

mine once told me I had too much drama in my life and hung up on me (when I was going through something horrible) but he was constantly in crisis mode, about to get fired, pissing people off, about to quit his job, getting bit by a dog, having his house damaged by storms, it was all one big crisis (probably mostly lies) when his house was supposedly damaged, he was supposed to take me to lunch that day, he disappeared for a few hours (no contact, no answer to calls/emails) then sent a text about how he hadn't had lunch yet (what about me?) and his deductible was 1% of his home value and he was going to move to Nepal and live as a goat. Of course, being an idiot I sent back a text that I'd always wanted a pet goat.

At least when my baby nephew creates drama, there's a reason. He can't really communicate. Screaming or tearing off the diaper will have to do. The ex-Psych prof was into the Poor Pity Me drama. He mocked me about my grandfather's death... then blamed ME for turning my classmates against him. He accused ME of being self-centered&narcissistic. He turned it into an occasion for self-pity, telling me that I needed to learn to be humble&that he'd teach me. He felt sorry for himself for not being revered as a great philosopher... and he hadn't accomplished anything. He hasn't published a book... just 2 articles in the past 11 years *looks at watch, rolls eyes) He felt sorry for himself because his colleagues didn't take him seriously, he had "stupid" students. When I volunteered at a local school, it was more Poor Pity Me. He was incredibly afraid that I was mocking him behind his back... the senior skit didn't help, IMHO. When I told him I loved him, he moved his seminar class from one room to another, to humiliate me, and yes, blame ME for the drama, tho he'd rage at me. In front of everyone. He played the victim when I told him I loved him. Not a normal reaction. After the final D&D, I said coolly, "All you had to say was that you already had a girlfriend. You didn't have to constantly lecture me. This isn't Greek tragedy, this is REAL LIFE."

Another negative quote from narc IT COULD ONLY HAPPEN TO ME!!!!!, THIS WOULD RANGE FROM LOUSY WEATHER, A LONG QUEUE, SOMEONE BIBING THE HORN, DOGS BARKING BIRDS TWITTERING, A DOOR OPENING/CLOSING, HIS DRINK BEIGN TO HOT/COLD/ TEPID..THE LIST IS ENDLESS, AND I LISTENED TO EVERY BIT OF THIS CRAP...OH SOMEONE SHOOT ME PLEASE!!!!!!

It's funny to read how others were just as dramatic as mine. He'd start the moment I woke up telling me the good weather was about to change. When I pointed at the blue sky he'd stare at his laptop "Look,clouds predicted for the afternoon. I cannot bike, again, why do I always get the bad weather on my days off?" Voice breaking, whine, whine. He was convinced some weather-god let it rain especially for him, he is that important! Every new workplace (three a year on average)was chaotic. Oh no, a man with his brain couldn't possibly stand those idiots there. Never mind he created the chaos. Co-workers were bullying him, neighbours playing loud music to upset him. Someone dared to use his parcing space (free to anyone). Greengrocers gave him the worst oranges (Scrooge asked for the cheapest). Hotels overcharged him. His kids had inherited the worst genes on earth from their terrible mother and he was fighting those day in and out (no, they hadn't inherited his wonderful genes). At least once a month he'd call the police to complain about something or someone. Life was and certainly still is a never-ending pity party or, to use his favourite word, a catastrophe. I couldn't help asking "Are you sure it's not you who is a walking catastrophe?" Got no reply.

my ex said the exact same thing to me when he wanted to take a "break." throughout the years we had lots of drama and i finally came to realize, it was HIM creating the drama! it wasn't until i figured out he was a narc that i also realized it wasn't me creating the drama (well, maybe sometimes) BUT it was usually fueled by him. when he wants to converse now (we have children) i am so in tune to his wily ways. sometimes though i do slip cuz i so want to make him hurt for all the hurt and pain he has caused me. i can be mean but he deserves no more goodness from me. the other day i was talking to him and during our conversation i did mention to him what a liar he is. of course he denied it but i told him i had written down every lie he ever told me in a notebook and i had pages of them. then i mentioned that he was a narc, he paused, then said that was impossible because a narc would not be concerned about my financial situation. i assured him that he was a narc and i am on to him. wife #2 told him he was one 7 years ago. i seriously do not know what took me so long to get it. errrrr! he has many of the traits, but he also doesn't. that was what was so confusing to me at first. but i really went back over the last 30 years and dug deep and then not so deep and soooo much of his b.s. was definitely narcy. he so grosses me out now. he still does the drama thing, usually about one of our kids. but i don't take the bait like i used to because most of the time it is about some trivial issue. i know he does it to keep me in his loop in case the new gf doesn't work out. he is so used to getting his way and me but it ain't happening asshole. i seriously can't stand him. when i think about him, i shudder. anyway, didn't mean to make this so long and all about me. ha ha

LAST AND MIDDLE NAME!!!! The sobbing, the self-flaggelation (literally pounding on himself with his fists..it was scary...he's borderline as well as psycho N). Everything was a huge trauma. Everything was a huge ordeal. Unless, of course, I was waiting on him hand and foot, keeping my mouth shut like a good little slave. YUCK! I got so used to the drama that now that there's none I wouldn't go back there for a million dollars...I kid you not and I'm broke! It's a huge N trait, as the others have mentioned. I think we all believe the particular disordered one each of us was involved with would win the Oscar! Hugs and love and light from (not) spinning (the sick MF'er tried but he DIDN'T TAKE ME DOWN!!!)

Narcs are famous for being the biggest drama queen everywhere they go (in the office, in a relationship, in a friends group) BUT they are also famous of accusing everybody else of being "the drama queen" while claiming that they are calm, cool, and collected. lies! they loove nothing more than drama. Most of them have slacked on any type of responsibilities they have in their lives and they need the excitement of any kind of drama our attention they can get. Thats exactly why the silent treatment kills em.

Are you joking he was more like a drama DRAG queen. I mean I would often feel like I was living in a soriety house or something with another b**ch. I often would have to listen to hours of ranting and raving about some other guy who got recognition at the job. One day I think I just went off and told him look the other guy got it and you didn't ! Needless to say it was time to put on the victim mask and take off to the "gym: . Yeah right !

"You are killing me babe!" is his favorite line. Ignoring him is like torture to him.

Drama Queen is an understatement. This was by far the most dramatic, exaggerated, pity-party person I’ve ever met in my life. The funniest part is he could complain about stuff all day (trying to get attention) and I’d say one negative thing about my day and I’d get “Kiwi you have to stop being so dramatic and negative.” Ahh haha. You know people make fun of females, saying how we’re all emotional, dramatic, over the top and hormonal- well they have yet to meet a good ole narc. It’s nice to be out of drama and even from the outside, knowing what I know now, it’s interesting the things they say to you.

Yes, my N friend was a real drama queen! Totally paranoid but he hated if anyone told him he was! When he had a job (only lasted a few months!) he claimed a woman at work was making unkind remarks about him and bullying him so he left. Just an excuse because he didn't want to work - he thought it was beneath him! I tried to convince him to stay on and think of his future and said that he was probably reading too much into this woman's remarks and he didn't like that one bit! His ex-g, on the other hand, gave him all the sympathy in the world and told him he should quit, she would make sure he was ok, so guess who he listened to?!! This was over a year ago and he's still not working - his ex-g moved back in with him and is paying his rent and waiting on him hand and foot even though she is the one working full-time. He does nothing at all, but I'm sure he is still going on about how hard his life is. He no longer has any of my sympathy, that's for sure!

Yes, CharlieSheenWinning lives for drama. He likes to stir things up between women to watch them fight over him. (It rarely works -- ha!) He usually goes for women who like to fight, especially in public. I was a complete disappointment in this regard -- I hate confrontation and drama. I just like to *laugh* His friends, the Goon Squad, also love the girly drama. They all belong back in high school.