Was my father a narcissist?
Was my father a narcissist?
Hello,
I'm new here and wanted to ask a question (I will tell my story at some point on the other board if that's okay).
I have been out with 2 people that I think were narcissists. Just left one recently, obviously I need to work on myself and stay away from them in the future.
But one thing I was pondering, my father died when I was a kid, but I'm fairly sure he was a narcissist. He was an alcoholic, violent to my mother. I always got the feeling he didn't really love me. And my mother told me some strange things. Once, my dad was seeing another woman, who went around town saying that my father was going to leave his wife (e.g my mum) and marry her. My mother asked him about this, and all my father said was "Do you really think I'd be with a woman that would go out with a married man?". My mother was half-laughing in a disgusted way as she told me this.
It doesn't really matter, and I know I'll never know for definite however I'm curious. He was also very charming and charismatic, people who didn't actually live with him often seemed to praised his generousity, warmth etc. He did many awful things over the years, including cashing in his life insurance before he died (probably to gamble with) and leaving us penniless.
I'm just trying to fit some pieces together on my upbringing.
Thanks.
hard to say or know for sure
thanks... I will do
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