This may be a little unusual in that I am a male and related to another member of this board. This is my first, and probably last post.
I am kgirl's husband.
I first started viewing this forum about 48 hours ago as a means to discover my wife's relationship to her narc. I feel terrible for violating her privacy. I had so hoped that I would only find encouraging messages of support for her as she tries to heal from the destructive relationship she had with N. I did find those encouraging messages - she had shared with me her concern that N was truly a narc and that all of the wildly fluctuating emotions she had for N were common to the victims. I agreed - no doubt that she was a narc. Of course, I also found out about the true nature of their relationship and am now going thru an intense period of grieving.
My point of posting is simply to thank all of you who have been so supportive of KG as she tries to recover from this horrible, pathetic relationship. I really had no idea how much she has suffered at the hands of this woman. I know N and have had social encounters with her on a number of occasions. I have seen how she acts with KG in social situations, but never fully understood how that has impacted KG's life. KG is a wonderful woman, full of compassion and she has been my best friend for over 18 years. She never deserved the abuse that she suffered at the hands of this woman. With all of the secrets now out in the open, the two of us can heal. As much as I have suffered over the last couple of days, my wife has endured years of psychological brainwashing by someone she first thought of as a friend. I feel for all of you who have endured this abuse, as well. No one deserves the shit that these people have thrown upon you.
Not only did I read KG's posts, but all of the supportive, loving responses that you sent back to her. I don't know how she could have recovered from this tragedy without your help.
KG and I will now start down the path to recovery. I'm not really sure where that will lead us, but I am very hopeful that we will make things better. As many of you have described, love endures and I feel optimistic about our future.
I pray that all of you will find a better place, as well. You deserve so much more.
PS - I intend to ask N to dance at the wedding next week - does that violate NC?