wonderful article, it is such a long haul, me over 3 years out now and thought i saw him the other day in the store I work out, it was a false alarm, but still felt nervous at the man that looked so much like him, it does take years for the scar to fade some.
Thank you for this..it is very good and indeed the experience when we have moved through the various stages can take us here to the realisation that the N had a valuable message for us and that we need to examine our own boundaries and our own wounds..healing our inner wounds will mean we no longer resonate with N's and they will (one day) not even notice or be drawn to us nor us to them..
it's a process though..I tried to jump from the place being discarded and confused to the bigger picture of forgiveness and spirituality..and even gratitude for me lessons learned..
BUT finding this forum was a godsend and I learned I had to take a step (or many steps) back and to really feel the terrifying anger and deep pain and the sadness..but mostly the anger..this is where I am now..but it is strengthening me daily..to get it all out..
and I know that it is bringing me to the place this great article describes..back to me, to my authenticity..
but I have far to go..as just one message yesterday from N saying 'I miss you' (read I have no curent supply)..made me physically shake despite my list of the ugliness traits..and i wanted to respond so much.. (I did) and know it will be ignored now he got his fix..I live and learn!!
It's is a journey..I know one day I will be grateful for this lesson in returning to my core and unwounded self..I am peeling the layers of my onion ..slowly..
Much love to you amazing people on this journey with me
Hugs xx
Very good article. We do have to admit to our part of the relationship with the Narc. It isn't just about what they've done to us but also what we have let them do to us!
Thanks!
eye opening article!
peacelily
Yes
Excellent....thank you!!!!
Wonderful article
So true
Pumpkin
very good