Using my free time to get real about myself, rather than obsessing about him
Using my free time to get real about myself, rather than obsessing about him
I think I've been stuck in step three for a while now. I understand who he is, and know that he is bad for me, and accept that NC is the only healthy option for me. But despite understanding that his behavior will never make sense to me emotionally, I am still really struggling to stop obsessing about it. The post on cognitive dissonance really helped me to understand what I'm doing in that respect and why I'm doing it. I also went back to Lisa's book and read that part again- she says that when we are obsessing, she challenges us to ask what feelings we are avoiding by focusing on him rather than ourselves.
I am fortunate in that I have off from work for almost two weeks- today is my first day home. And it comes at the perfect time- it's a great opportunity for me to think about her challenge and to start looking inward and getting real with myself.
I acknowledge that it would also be easy for me (far easier, actually) to spend the time obsessing. But I am committing to you all that I will not do that. I'm going to make a plan today for using this time to do what I need to do to move forward.
Many thanks to all of your for your excellent posts, and insights and support! I hadn't been on here in a while, and you have given me the inspiration and courage I need to keep fighting. Happy holidays!
i realized today
Like it wanna
Good for you wanna!
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Letter from N
Nice Thread....
Thank you
Janemarie
I cried after reading this ,
Awww Anari...
Wow, Wanna!!!! Do you see
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Great excercise
That's a beautiful letter,