Uh oh - I'm a very kind person & I feel myself faltering with the N :(

"Hate women 'cos they want to be women"-From my own experience, YES, that is definitely true! My former Narc boss was openly gay-but he was fascinated with drag queens, he also had a thing for post-menopausal women. He pals around with mother figures and/or lesbians. He'd joke about how he had PMS, or was going thru menopause. He'd say he had bad moods due to PMS. He could be quite effeminate, he had the lisp. He couldn't stand young women because they were, in his words, "hormonal." I found him an odd mixture of being very respectful towards women and outright misogyny. He'd talk about how he wrecked his car because he was upset over his mother's death, couldn't stand his father (who is apparently still alive) It would be easy to say he disrespected women, because he could be just as disrespectful towards men. He once hired a homeless guy who was stealing from the nursing home, and they once chatted about how they wanted to sell Mary Kay cosmetics. The ex-Psych prof was quite effeminate... it was an ex-BOYfriend of his who warned me against getting more involved. He'd get incredibly angry and call me a slut if I wore dresses/skirts... once, I joked, "do you want to wear my dress?" That did NOT go over well. In his favorite novel, "War and Peace",there are several examples of men cross-dressing... Nastasaya Ivanovna, the buffoon on the Rostov estate, wears women's clothes&goes by a woman's name;Nicholas Rostov dresses up like an old woman for Christmas festivities with the Cossacks;Platon is described as speaking "like an old mother" and at one point, a soldier dresses up women's clothes for reasons never really explained.The ex-P barely spoke of his mother, but he worshipped his father. After the ex-P flaunted his masculine girlfriend, I joked with my classmates that we should get the couple romantic gifts-massage oils, Victoria's Secret, and one of my classmates said "he'd wear the Victoria's Secret." To top it off, the ex-P was a virulent homophobe. Very hateful towards gays. Again, I saw him treat men badly... on top of the misogyny. I've known gay men who respect women&treat them well, don't engage in mindgames. Ns/Ps are an entirely other species. Just because a man hates women doesn't mean he'll treat men any better. You're right. You definitely have the essence of the misogyny nailed.

Wow, Used. I'm going to think about that for a bit.. 'HATE WOMEN COS THEY WANT TO BE WOMEN'. I'm going to try and link that up with his really creepy relationship with his mother. Can you help?? Mine used to put on a lot of jasmine perfume/oil. And groomed himself more than I did. He also wore flowery shirts sometimes. AND he wore my dressing gown when he stayed over - I'm tiny and he is obese! But he was always talking about his anger issues and how he liked to settle differences with a fight. Very macho. But then, what they say means nothing, right? I've read flirtatious messages with his daughter's ex boyfriend online. Hmmm.... Thanks, Used. Food for thought!