Tortured IN & OUT of these relationships
Tortured IN & OUT of these relationships
Here is something I am noticing: That most of us are tortured IN these relationships, often enduring long and endless fights over the same topics with the N, realizing that nothing will help or change it..YET ...still taking blame and fault and beating ourselves up...and the feeling of urgency when NC starts...the feelings that we can't make it, the doubts and negative thinking ...torture us when we leave.
do you find that you can't feel good about this situation either way? Even when you learn he IS an N? because even if you do get back with the same N, you know it won't last long before the same BS pops up again...and even if you don't go back to the N...you don't feel good about your choice to make a positive change.
We make it hard on ourselves. We do most if not all of the introspection and education on NPD and yet we don't treat our selves with kindness and love and fogiveness? ---We sure a hard on ourselves!
I was Not in a long term relationship with the N and so my sympathy really does go out to all of you that extracting your lives after many many years. It is not easy to change.
I think I believed in him so strongly initially that when I learned the real truth I was devastated that I not only could of been so WRONG but that LOVED HIM INTENSLEY and had faith in him.I was so dissapointed this didn't work out, that great feeling of dissapoint was stronger with him than anyone else.I really believed in this connection we shared.
This is a hard "life change" for us but either way I see that we are not as hard on them as we are on ourselves.
Best to all of you!
This topic is what I was thinking about today
Momoya
Momoya
Tourtured!!
Very well stated.