Told his girlfriend on facebook what he is!! ADVICE PLEASE?

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#1 Mar 1 - 2PM

booboo35

Told his girlfriend on facebook what he is!! ADVICE PLEASE?

Hi all i don't know weather i have done the right thing, He has started seeing another women probably before i broke NC about 3 weeks ago, I just sent her a message to her explaining all the years of hell i went through with him and women to women i never wanted her to go through it too, I told her it might seem like am the jealous ex Girlfriend but i showed her messages from sunday that he had sent my sisters trying to get back with me saying he loved me, I told him that he is Narcissistic and to look it up. She replied she and seemed genuine in her reply, and said that he had been ringing her early hours in the morning asking if he could stay in hers, Probably he was high off his face! She was OK with me weather she will listen i don't know,, I know i shouldn't have done it, But the reason i did was he has been going round telling lies to people about me saying i was the bad girlfriend and i was cheating, He is such a pig, Anyway i don't think she will be to happy if he phones her again after what i have told her what he is, and showed her the messages he sent to my sister. H e is such a using arsehole turd, Am so ANGRY TONIGHT!! X

#2 Mar 2 - 4AM

momoya

Now that is done,

Can you get back to No Contact? did it make you feel better? Get back to NC and quickly! Narc's are master liars, he will lie for the rest of his life and you can't save everyone from him or convince them of the truth. Hope you get back to NC and stay NC! Remove yourself from the craziness!! Best!

momoya

#3 Mar 2 - 4AM (Reply to #9)

booboo35

momoya.

Hi it did not make me feel better, It made me feel unsuppressed, As i have had enough of his lies and telling everyone that am the the mad crazy Ex GF, I am back to NC now, As i said in my last post on here she has Young Children, I went through a horrific court battle for 8 years to get my son home with me due to my ex narcs DV on me and my son, And i would never like to see any poor child go through that, Its awful and i never got the proper help, That's why now i have bad PSTD, I would never condone anyone breaking NC as it kept me sane for 55 days and made me see things clear, CRYSTAL CLEAR, To what he is and how much a lie i lived for 13 years. I am happy in myself that i warned her, As looking now i wish someone would have warned me about him when i first met him, xxxx

STAY STRONG!! XX

#4 Mar 2 - 4AM

Scoop

There are arguments for and

There are arguments for and against teling the ow about the narc . I ask myself would i have listerned to a woman trying to tell me about the narc at the begining and the answer would proberly have been no but i think it may have stuck in my head somewhere and i may have been more guarded , its a hard call. There something powerful about a woman to woman chat but i think if youre going to do it its better to leave it untill after the honeymoon period has warn off , as it would make more sence to the ow then if she has had a taste to the slipped mask . I got the word out to my narcs ow through a mutual friend that he had NPD , she is a psycologist and she was with him about 3 months before she left but i dont think it was my revalation ... dont know it could have had something to do with it , ill find out one day . xc

#5 Mar 2 - 12AM

booboo35

Hi all, Well yes there might

Hi all, Well yes there might have been other motives but my main goal is not to let that prick hurt anyone again, I have done it now and i am glad she knows. I have told her about how his family will paint him out to be a saint and a good man, While they seen him go to prison in 2003 for smashing my house up hitting me and harassing me and spitting in my face. His family are all narcs too, His mother has a hoarding illness were you hoard things, I believe her house is like the inside of a skip. His sisters are so far up there own backside too, I think the whole family are mentally unbalanced. I wont be sending her anymore messages i have blocked her on facebook now. She has done nothing too me anyway, I got so angry last night of being painted out too be the bad girlfriend and the evil one, I had too defend myself, I wont be doing it again, This is my fresh start now, Women to women like i said to her i would not want anyone too go through years of pain like i did, Its not just that she has small kids as well and i told her how i had to go through a 8 year court case to get my son back with me off social services due to his domestic violence, And i know for a fact if she stays with him they will be involved in her life and might take he kids too, I would not wish that on my worse enemy, xx

STAY STRONG!! XX

#6 Mar 2 - 2AM (Reply to #6)

agnesmurphy17

Family in on it.

My N's family enabled him. It's how I got sucked in so fast. I knew him about 4 weeks & then his parents came to live with him for FOUR weeks as a vacation from their country. I was enveloped with affection. I was taken on trips, wined & dined. They flattered & fawned. they seemed like such a happy family. I married their son a few months later. I went to vist them in their country frequently, they came to our house. We traveled & enjoyed a great relationship. Although their son was a cycling monster to me in private. Dr. J & Mr. H. After I left him, he had a new woman that day. His parents came for a SIX week visit the month after I left him. Apparently, they were immediate family with the new woman. Traveled with her, wined & dined her. Enveloped her & her kids with affection. Invited them all their house in their country. When I met the first ex-wife, she told me -- they cover for him. They lie for him. His mother is looking for a woman who can "contain" him because she will not always be there to do it. They know what he is. The parents lie to help entrap new victims. It is all so devastating. I spent three years of my life, another two in recovery, for something that was ALL a lie from the first hello to the last good-bye. The time & the money & the pain & even the so-called good times - it was all built on deception. The first ex-wife & the woman who replaced me -- I realized in hearing from them their stories, very little this man says about his past & himself is true. He weaves a different manufactured mythology for every woman that he meets. Whatever he thinks she will buy so that he can obtain maximum extraction. Oh, mine broke up my stuff & the stuff of the woman who replaced me. Mine spit on me too. They are all alike these guys. Glad you put your's in jail.

#7 Mar 1 - 7PM

Disillusionedx2

Leave it alone....

Your intentions maybe to try to save her some grief but you have other motives as well, it's not your business to inform her, she's an adult, she will learn this soon enough. This will do nothing for him, you nor her, focus on your recovery from him, let him move on in peace, you are not the fairy narc mother, there's plenty more "supply" out there that he will go through, are you going to track them down and "warn" them as well? NC entails leaving any and everything N behind and moving on toward healing and restoring your soul, showing her messages he sent to you means nothing, he will rage when she tell him, you could be putting yourself in a dangerous position, it's going to be a hard enough recovery without adding more drama to the mix, move on, it's a done deal, pick up your peices and attempt to put them back together, best wishes!

stay~strong

#8 Mar 1 - 3PM

agnesmurphy17

Keep Us Posted!

Wow! Hat's off to you! Go get him. If she tells your N, there may be fall out. Or he may just go away & leave you alone--too dangerous. A friend of mine did this to her N. The woman said "thank you" & dropped him. On another level, I befriended my N's first ex-wife & the woman who replaced me. And we are FB friends. He does not do FB because he's real smart & plays his cards very close. But, I know he looks--he was looking at his daughter's & his ex-wife's FB pages while we were married. So now my N knows that all three women are in contact & know all about his lies. He is staying far away. At this point, I doubt my N will ever want to be friends (he tried that) or try to hoover (tried that when he broke up with my replacement) ever again.

#9 Mar 1 - 3PM

victimnomore

Most likely

Most likely she won't listen. But it's done, it's the past now leave it there and focus on your recovery. You can't save the world. You have to save yourself first. HUGGS!

victimnomore

#10 Mar 1 - 2PM

Hunter

Boo

You really should not have done that. But Whats done is done. You warned her now let it be. Idealk

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