After the psycho called my father and cried and begged for my father to talk to me about giving up a lot of my alimony and threatening to go back to prison because he cannot pay his bills and can't live like this anymore, He decided to sign the divorce papers. My lawyer was not budging on anything but letting him keep $50 per week of his own money.
He also requested some holidays with our teenager. (He never spent any holidays with us when he was home, he always had to leave or work). When he filed for divorce in march he had it in his mind that he was going to walk away with at least $50,000 (the house, 401k and bank accounts.
I have stood my ground and it was not easy but I will tell you that by me being completely NC ever since he left, I am stronger than ever when it comes to him and his BS.
Thank God, I get to keep my house and all of my assets. I have sole custody of our teenager and I have permanent alimony and he has to pay child support. I am not bragging I am just so grateful for a good attorney and this board. When I first came to this board I was a suicidal mess. I could not stand up for myself and I did not want to. Everyone's story is of help to me and I still read everyday even though I don't post much.
It took me about 27 years to get out of this mess because i ignored red flags that appeared 3 months into the relationship. But I am here, I am out, the fog has lifted and I am finally free!
Girls, hear me please run from these psychos as fast and as far as you can and do not look back. Those of you who did not marry a narc or was duped by them, consider yourself very lucky and look at it as a second chance for a good life.
I am a better person and our teenager is so much better off with the psycho out of the house. I am proud of our recovery and I see nothing but good things for our future.
Keep moving forward, let go of the fantasy, accept what he or she is and just watch what amazing things will come into your life. I am proof and believe me I have been to the lowest depths of hell and back with this man but I am a survivor and so are you.
The fat turd can now crawl back under his boulder! LOL!