Things you DON'T miss about him/her

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#1 Apr 13 - 1PM
Deidre99
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Things you DON'T miss about him/her

I have been broken up with my ex for a year now. Hard to believe. I have been NC for nearly 10 months, now.

I don't have CD anymore, but some here in the early stages, do. In the early stages of healing, it's not unusual to start missing that good guy/girl you once knew. And you start 'forgetting' all the abuse, and bad stuff. Maybe not completely, but it starts to get lost in the background, and then...you start yearning to be with the person again. This can cause you to break NC, when you're in that 'yearning/missing' mode.

So, I thought this could be a helpful thread for you to list...itemize...those things you no longer miss. That truly without this person, you feel better about not having in your life, anymore. Refer back to it, when you get that yearning/missing feeling, so you can see in black and white, that you're really not missing much!

I'll list some things that I remember feeling I didn't miss after a few months after the breakup:

* silent treatment through texts, designed to make me wonder where he disappeared to (we had a long distance relationship)

* his insults on my intelligence

* his inability to laugh at himself

* his accusing me of cheating, or wanting to cheat (meanwhile, this was projection on his part no doubt)

* asking for pictures of me, and then as time went on, and i'd send them, he would act like he didn't receive them. that was such a strange mind game, he played. designed to make me wonder if he didn't like how i looked in the pic by not commenting on them, anymore.

* cracking jokes at my expense

I have more to list, but eh. This is enough. lol I look over this list and am SO GRATEFUL he's gone.

Ok...your turn. I hope it helps you to list these things, and realize that you're better off without this chaos in your life. :)

Apr 13 - 5PM
Trainwreck56
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Unless you have been NARC'D

Apr 13 - 6PM (Reply to #42)
BtrflyGrl
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No. .we can't explain..this

Apr 13 - 5PM
bgirl
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I don't miss: The emotional

Apr 13 - 3PM
Deidre99
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@ Sparrow...that is chilling,

Apr 13 - 3PM
Brit
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Great topic

Apr 14 - 5AM (Reply to #38)
Melba
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Being Reminded

Apr 13 - 3PM (Reply to #34)
me
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My List is practically identical...

Apr 13 - 4PM (Reply to #35)
Brit
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It's just too cruel (to ME)

Apr 13 - 4PM (Reply to #36)
BtrflyGrl
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I googled I think my

Apr 13 - 4PM (Reply to #37)
Brit
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btrflygirl

Apr 13 - 3PM
Janie53
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I don't miss the betrayal to

Apr 13 - 2PM
Sparrow
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I can only answer this

Apr 13 - 4PM (Reply to #31)
Trainwreck56
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They take you apart piece by piece, they know

Apr 13 - 2PM
dabussard
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Things I don't miss

Apr 13 - 2PM
HadEnough80
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Everything :)

Apr 13 - 2PM
Alissa
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Good idea! * My N asked for

Apr 13 - 3PM (Reply to #26)
me
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What is with their "worship my man-parts" stuff!?

Apr 14 - 2AM (Reply to #27)
Alissa
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Yeah such a turn on when the

Apr 13 - 2PM (Reply to #24)
Deidre99
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alissa

Apr 13 - 2PM (Reply to #25)
Alissa
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Deidre

Apr 13 - 1PM
spinning
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This helps keep the REALITY GOGGLES on, D,

spinning

Apr 13 - 5PM (Reply to #22)
Trainwreck56
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You said it all in a Big Nutshell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Apr 13 - 2PM (Reply to #21)
Alissa
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Oh here's another one : I

Apr 13 - 2PM (Reply to #20)
Deidre99
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spinning and done sourcing

Apr 13 - 1PM
Done sourcing
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Things I don't

Apr 14 - 3PM (Reply to #18)
Trainwreck56
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SAME HERE! GREAT POST!

Apr 13 - 1PM
jaime17
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Good one Deidre! I need a

Apr 13 - 5PM (Reply to #16)
Trainwreck56
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You said it all too!

Apr 13 - 2PM (Reply to #15)
Deidre99
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jaime

Apr 13 - 1PM
TRHulfy
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things i don't miss