They love to scare us

Leah's situation has really hit me. They just don't let us go peacefully, do they? Selfish idiots filled with vindictiveness and vitriol...and of course, baseless threats. It's not enough they tortured us...they have to come back and continue the terror.

A couple weeks ago (just a week after my ex N's sister delivered the message to him that he needed to stop stalking me on my company website or face a harrassment restraining order)...I was startled by a brief pounding on my front door just as I was heading off to bed. Something told me not to answer the door. Instead, I peaked through the curtains and couldn't see anything in the dark. Two days later, I was awakened by the same brief pounding at 5 a.m....I got up, looked around but couldn't see anything as it was still dark. At the time, I didn't put two and two together. My ex N is still in the middle east and though he was the first person I thought of as the culprit, I dismissed it as impossible. Then, I started noticing that someone with the same IP was coming in from a certain state every day to our company website. I checked all the specs of the IP address you can track through web analytics...it was the same computer specs, same keywords, same state, etc. It raised my suspicion...especially when I remembered he was supposed to come back to the U.S. in sept. for a 2-week class in that state that the IP was coming in from (halfway across the country from where I live...he could have arranged a stop-over in our home state enroute to his class in another state). I watched our web stats with growing suspicion. THEN...last Sat. I noticed some oddly placed mud on one of my outdoor lawn chairs and when I lifted the cushion, there it was...a key to my front door...under the cushion. I never gave him a key to my place, but he was the only one who knew where I kept my extra keys to the house. I think he took a key without me knowing when we were together. Anyway, I think he was here. I'm not sure what to think though. He didn't use the key...didn't hurt me or my pets. Did he just want to scare me by letting me know he was here? Did he want to chew me out for telling his family he was stalking me?

Anyway, it's got me pretty rattled. But then again, maybe it tells me he's not violent (he could have used the key to get inside my house and hurt me or my pets)...and he's just a big a-hole empty threat N.

I know you guys have a lot going on and Leah takes top concern. But if you have any thoughts, I'd really appreciate it. Thanks.