"They love me"

Maybe I spent way to many years in Narcville and I may be a bit warped in my judgement because of this, but a red flag for me is when people talk about how much people love them instead of the love they have for others.
My narc always spoke of everyone who loved him. Whether it was his children,grandchildren,ex girl friends,the women at the coffee shop,the bank,convenience store etc.It was always "they love me" I do believe he loved his family but never spoke of his love for them just how much they adored him.
I find myself watching for this tendency in everyone.And I have noticed the people in my life who have some narcissistic tendencies often speak in the same manner.
I may be being paranoid in my quest to keep narcs as far away as possible. I do realize that it could also be an insecurity in people and they are looking for validation that they are indeed loved.But it always seemed to me that my narc wanted to be loved but to never love.
Please set me straight if I am being a bit too suspect of people. A long time friend of mine who has some narc tendencies does this alot and I am feeling myself pull away. I try to tell myself that she is just being insecure. Hmmm..but I'm not sure.