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#1 Dec 6 - 1PM
Alissa
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Their eyes ... ?

I have been thinking about this a whole lot lately, because N always glared at me. Well not all the time, but most of the time he would do this. He had this creepy, creepy look in his eyes. Even after the first kiss we shared, this was the first thing I thought. We kissed, I opened my eyes, looked into his and was.... shocked. Seriously! Such coldness...

During one of his D & D's he said to me: "I have no use/ need for you anymore!" while raging.
The look he gave me back then, was pure evil and full of hatred.

What about your N's eyes?

Here's a thread from another forum , they describe pretty much the same as I noticed with my N too.
http://www.webofnarcissism.com/forums/index.php?topic=6311.0

Dec 6 - 2PM
Hermes
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Reptilian

It is called the "reptilian stare". Remember that the malignant NPD or psychopath is operating from a very primitive "place". "The Reptilian Stare: Psychopath’s pupil dilation when you are the targe"t "This gets into the bowels of the brain, the reptilian brain, so to speak, to the roiling, evolutionarily archaic areas that operate in that primeval brew of neurotransmitters, heavy metals and glyco-fiber, the brain stem". From: http://neurologicalcorrelates.com/wordpress/2010/11/04/the-reptilian-stare-psychopaths-pupil-dilation-just-before-they-attempt-to-murder-you-may-be-a-function-of-target-detection/ And yes, I've seen it too. Hermes
Dec 7 - 1AM (Reply to #7)
Alissa
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Thank you for the link,

Thank you for the link, Hermes. It's amazing that there is actually a name for the creepy way they look. xx
Dec 6 - 2PM
spinning
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Alissa, when mine hoovered in

December of 2009 (I didn't know what a hoover was and I had been 20 days NC and never ever thought he'd come around again), I let him in. I did not embrace him or act happy to see him, I was weary. His eyes were darting about like mad, but they were so dark I couldn't even see his pupil. They looked like a crazy person's eyes. It was the first time I was truly PHYSICALLY afraid of what he might do. I wonder how I missed that telltale sign (the crazy, dark, darting eyes when I was trying to stand up for myself. He looked as if he would lose it at any moment... Ugh! So glad to be out. 13 months NC tomorrow!!!! Most sincerely, (not) spinning. BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE TO LOOK AT THOSE PSYCHO EYES EVER AGAIN

spinning

Dec 6 - 2PM (Reply to #4)
Alissa
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So dark you couldn't even see

So dark you couldn't even see his pupil? That's so scary!! :(
Dec 6 - 2PM (Reply to #5)
spinning
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Alissa, it truly was..

...it was the first time I realized I could be in danger and that I made a mistake letting him in. Fortunately he left fairly quickly and of course me letting him in let myself in for another year of hell only to be D & D'd again on almost the exact same date 12 months later...you live and learn, I suppose! Today, I feel that the D & D is the absolute best thing he ever did for me in the entire six years of hell I endured. Sometimes I even feel like sending him a thank you note!!! :) Most sincerely, (not) spinning. THE SICK FREAK IS DEAD TO ME NOW

spinning

Dec 6 - 1PM
Hunter
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The windows of the soul..

The windows of the soul.. Dead eyes indeed.. The lights are on but nobody's home.. Hunter
Dec 6 - 2PM (Reply to #2)
Lisa87
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Something I always noticed

Something I always noticed about him, he would look into my eyes and glare and there was always such an empty stare. He tried and gave it his all, but you can't fake that. Tried to excuse it for his strength and that was part of the draw, he was so calm, cool, collected, smart, generous that I took it as a strength that he was able to hold his emotions in so well. Didn't know that there was no soul and emotions never existed in him!!!