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#1 Jan 25 - 3AM
Snowflake
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Thank you

to everyone who replied to my topic. I have had a raging headache for the last two days that wont go away.

I am grateful to every one of you.

The people with kind words I guess understand my current thought process. The people who took a more harsh approach I guess are just further down the line and with hindsight can see me making a similar mistake and want to give me a loving kick.

But I am further along in my journey in that having the knowledge I can read texts etc. with more open eyes. I am slowly getting stronger so please bear with me x

Jan 25 - 8AM
Goldie
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Please members do not ask for help if you are going to

Critique each answer as to it's sweetness, harshness, worthiness rating. I have never seen anything like this in my life. The moderators spend hours helping members who are asking for help by the way, and then the members come on here and critique the answers. This is life and death for many here and I find this attitude to go beyond NOT GRATEFUL. Many members have burned out friends and family members or cannot talk about this because they are married and the narc is mentally and physically abusing some of you, and many have been told by F&F that they will not speak to you if you don't get out of these unhealthy relationships. AND OUR MODERATORS ARE ACCUSED of being harsh or abusive because they are trying to help you to see the insanity of the situation. Moving forward if members do not want or like honest feedback. Please do not ask for it and we will not give it. I have little tolerance for people who are in a sick destructive situation blaming the care giver and messenger. For telling them the truth. If you want fake phones sugar coated feedback there are hundreds of fake caregivers out there who will take your money and tell you exactly what you want to hear. Wait a minute that sounds like a narc. So glad you are giving this a second look Snowflake God bless, Goldie
Jan 25 - 7AM
janemarie
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Everyone had to deal with

Everyone had to deal with things in there own way..thats what makes us individuals...we are here to give our advice from our own experiences...we never judge, but do sometimes want to give you the swift kick when needed...I got that at one point and it was just what I needed to wake the hell up!!! Remember we have all been where you are... Good luck to you!! xoxo
Jan 25 - 7AM (Reply to #4)
Snowflake
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Yes

I had a step back thought about things and thought what do I hope to achieve my letting him back in, yes he is being nice now but it doesnt undo the horrible hurtful things, they wont go away. And there were lots of those..not just comments but times I was ignored, not worthy of a reply, he was too busy. And he is just after some sex reading between the lines, want to meet so of course he can be nice for a few days...
Jan 25 - 7AM (Reply to #5)
janemarie
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Excellent Progress

That is great that you can read between the lines...and never let go of those memories of the ignoring and comments...that is what keeps you focused and moving forward.... Dont look back...there was a reason why it didnt work out the first time... Maybe turn your focus to your family...do work there and you may find a new happiness that you never knew existed!! xoxo
Jan 25 - 7AM (Reply to #6)
Snowflake
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Yes

It also helps reading the other side on here too, the pain when Ns have left their families and the devastation to the kids. I can stop this now and I intend to x
Jan 25 - 6AM
Sparrow
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It is a long process and you

It is a long process and you are trying. That is what matters. Good luck to you and your committment to yourself and your healing. You are doing great!
Jan 25 - 5AM
Winter
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Way to go girl!

We will go through it all together and we are there for you! You can do that, and you will see how joyful will be your life in a few months from now. Love Winter