Tell Me You Don't Love Me
Tell Me You Don't Love Me
Hi everyone.
Thinking about his words again.
EX has said more than 10 times since breaking up "tell me you don't love me!" I can't I don't that but it's stupid thinking I could somehow of fallen out of love at the snap of my fingers too.
His cheating hurt me so much because I loved him so much!
Or he will say 'tell me what we have isn't real!' all of a sudden our love is special to him and he wants to convince me going back to him is right because of the love. More like the love he felt from me, what I gave him is what he is missing now.
From what I have read they only want to belong to the exclusive clubs that don't want them, they love the chase more than anything and they think highly of themselves -others must too!
So what is it with all of this justification of love or questions about denial of love? or all his 'you tell me's....etc
verbal manipulation by applying just the right amount of aggression to bring about my response to soothe him and say 'oh no no, I DO love you" as if that is the life raft to us!
"LOVE SHOULD OF BROUGHT YOUR ASS HOME LAST NIGHT!" - movie qoute
i can still love him
and leave him
the worse he behaves the easier he makes it
I see that
My love for him doens't mean it's healthy or good for me.
My love for him can't fix cheating.
My love for him can't fix it to trust him again.
It seems so strange that only a narc can cheat on you and then chastise or make demands to acknowledge and recognize or appreciate the very love they just shit on!
He yelled 'you tell me you don't love me - you look me in my eyes and deny it!!!" I point out all his anger and hostility directed at me and then he would just say 'oh well that's because your making this so hard and not being reasonable'.
*The more things quiet down the more I can hear my own thoughts/feelings.*
There has been a pattern of answering to him - I see how he expects it. I wonder how I got caught up with him and didnt see it.
I swear we were -were- really happy together for a while.
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It's amazing
victimnomore
BadaBing,
I DIDN'T want him to cope with it
Susan
I feel for you,
Bada
wow