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#1 Apr 21 - 10AM
rainbow1
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Tell me not to contact him!

I need you guys to tell me not to contact him please! I was D and D a few days ago and since then he is giving me the silent treatment. I got this last week too when I called him out on trying to sleep with other girls so I got the silent treatment for 2 days, but then I apologized and he told me if I love him I'd "come suck his dick". So then after that we were fine.

Now I am getting it again for telling him that I want him to text me throughout the day on his lunch breaks. And he freaked and its back to the silent treatment. I spent 2 days apologizing but he still wont respond this time.

All I want to do is have him talk to me! I want the attention on me instead of some other girl. And I know he must have supply somewhere else or he wouldnt be cutting me off totally. And it kills me! I just want to call him and get him to talk to me.

How do you handle the silent treatment? Everything I read doesnt tell me how to deal with it. It is so mean and just makes me want to beg for his love.

The ridiculous part is that 3 months ago he had a girlfriend and I was seeing someone too. We were friendly and would talk about each other relationships. He would pretend to help me if I was having problems and I would listen to his about his girlfriend. This did not bug me at all. But now that I had a taste of him again I cant stand the thought of him with another girl!

So please tell me not to contact him and how to handle the silent treatment. It has been 3 days of nothing from him. It is killing me.

Apr 21 - 10PM
neverlookback
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Sure would be happy to

just read my new post and you wont contact him. He is the same sick sob he always has been, it wont give you the fix you think you need, it will give you FURTHER PAIN so DONT CONTACT HIM DONT CONTACT HIM HE IS STILL SICK
Apr 21 - 6PM
Happy1
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It's so tempting to contact I

It's so tempting to contact I know. We want the dream and want them to proclaim love. Unfortunately, it's just not going to ever be the happy ending you want. You will be happier if you don't contact him. Just take one day at a time. Today tell yourself you won't contact him today. Just do that each day. You don't have to tell yourself that you will never contact him again. Baby steps! Fool your mind a bit so it's not quite so overwhelming. You can do it!
Apr 21 - 4PM
Hunter
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It's not ideal

Have at it read my post! Hunter
Apr 21 - 12PM
Scoop
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"if you love me you would

"if you love me you would come over and suck my dick " .... Rainbow .. just no ...on every level .. I think you have been brainwashed and you need to go nc because the next level of narc arragance is "you made me hit you " ...seriously this narc is out of controle and so are you . If you respond to his crazy demands do you think his behaviour is going to get any better to you , all he is going to think is "excelent i can be a complete dick and Rainbow still comes round " so he will carry on being a wanker and any self essteem you have left will go down the pan . xx
Apr 21 - 1PM (Reply to #7)
Veronrose
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"all he is going to think is

"all he is going to think is "excelent i can be a complete dick and Rainbow still comes round " so he will carry on being a wanker and any self essteem you have left will go down the pan ." Scoop, you are absolutely right and self-esteem is such a fragile, vulnerable thing when you're in imstrong's state of mind. Imstrong, you need to reclaim your self-esteem. The funny thing is (well, NO it's NOT funny), is that we go after these guys for validation and self-esteem, when in affect, we DO NOT get validation and it only serves to TAKE AWAY self-esteem.
Apr 21 - 11AM
Veronrose
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Rainbow, please. Don't

Rainbow, please. Don't contact this...this...disgusting pig. Reading your post made me sick to my stomach. If you loved him you'd come suck his dick???? Rainbow, how is it that you were fine after he said that???? You deserve better than that.... The silent treatment is HARD!! Like Ideal said, it's a form of abuse. Mine gives me the silent treatment too, but it's been 25 days since I made any attempt to contact him. What makes it a little bit easier for me, is to turn the tables in my mind....I just keep thinking that, ok, he may be silent on me, but I am now silent on him too. He is SOOOO used to me contacting him, but no more. I have the control now. Rainbow, please, turn the tables and ignore this creep. He'll be back in his own due time to suck some more supply out of you but it is my hope that you will then go silent on him. I know it's hard. Please try to hang in. ((hugs)) Veronrose
Apr 21 - 11AM (Reply to #4)
rainbow1
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This is what is keeping my

This is what is keeping my head up. I know he will be back his cycle is about every 2months he Hoovers me. I know that I caved this time but I am looking forward to laughing in his face the next time. :)

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Apr 21 - 11AM (Reply to #5)
Veronrose
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THAT'S more like it!!!!

THAT'S more like it!!!! :)))) You go girl!!!
Apr 21 - 10AM
Hunter
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Rainbow

I'm not telling you anything. You will do what you are going to do! Silence is a form of control, it's also abusive. He's silence is killing you right? And you want to talk to him why? What will you say? What do you think his response will be? So go ahead call him, who do you think this will hurt? Ummm you! Let me know who that one sided conversation goes! Idealk
Apr 21 - 11AM (Reply to #2)
exhausted
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Rainbow

Ideal is right. Contacting him is only going to hurt you. The mistake we make is in thinking they are giving us the silent treatment because they know it will make us crazy and chase them. This is only half true. The real reason they give the silent treatment is because they don't care. This sucks and please don't take this as me being mean but he really isnt even thinkng about you right now. He probably has found new supply so you should go and do the same thing. get back into something that you used to enjoy doing or find a new hobby. Do what you can to take your mind off of the person who is not thining about you.