Talked to his ex-wife...interesting revelations...:(

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#1 Jul 23 - 1AM

sunny 523

Talked to his ex-wife...interesting revelations...:(

I am friendly with my ex-n's ex wife. We talked yesterday.

I found out that ex-n's new OW lives IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD. He introduced his sons to her IN MARCH, right after my final D&D, when he told me he didn't want a relationship so that he could "find himself", and wouldn't introduce his sons to a new woman until they are 18. He said he's "ugly inside" and is angry at women. Yeah, right, that's why he jumped right into another relationship!!!! Liar!!!

OW is throwing him a party tonight for his 40th birthday. Must be with all of HER friends...he has NONE. New gf has 2 young daughters...My ex-n couldn't handle one female, let alone 3. What happens when her daughters get more attention than him? He is barely a father to his own sons. In fact, he does not want his sons at his party, and they are very upset about it. Ex-n lied to them and told them their mother has something planned today, which she doesn't!

I am not really jealous...I actually feel sorry for OW. He will probably find a way to make her feel like SHE ruined his birthday party by forgetting a candle on the cake, or singing "happy birthday" out of tune. He will probably get jealous when she has to tend to her kids and not make him her first priority. OR...maybe he is the happiest he has ever been. Who knows.

Ex-wife tells me that he constantly refers to her as his girlfriend, saying, "my girlfriend and I are doing this, my girlfriend and I are doing that, yada yada..." Ex-wife doesn't know her name or what she does for a living.

But why does she have to live near me? That's what kills me the most. Now, I am going to be looking around for his damn car. What if I know the girl? It's a small world where I live. :(

I hope he has the shittiest birthday ever. I really hate him!!!!!!!!!

XOXO

Mer

#2 Jul 23 - 8AM

ruby01 (not verified)

A Birthday Party?

And how old is he? Six? Maybe he can hire himself as the clown. What a loser. They always want cards and parties, but when its someone else's B Day they don't lift a finger. Does Hallmark really make Narc B Day Cards. Maybe you should get him one of the cards you can record your own message on so when he opens it he will hear, "YOU SUCK AT LIFE GO CHOKE ON A PIECE OF CAKE."

#3 Jul 23 - 7AM

BadaBing

@ Sunny =)

I am glad you got this info. I think you needed to hear this! The anger in your post is the fuel you may of needed to get over the grief hump you were feeling so much. He sounds like a real Ass Mer! Not wanting his own kids at his Bday party? what a selfish bastard!! What a SELFISH SELF ABSORBED BASTARD Do you KNOW how lucky you are that you didn't love him longer, did not invest more of you time and energy that would of taken more time and energy to heal from! If you do see them or run into her - just remember this is not the picnic he protrays and you KNOW all that he has to offer. We idealize them for some reason but its all wrong and not true at all. They are grand liars and want to project these false puffed up ego/mask/selves and we know the truth - relish in the truth Mer.

#4 Jul 23 - 6AM

Sparrow

That's sucks the big hairy

That's sucks the big hairy one as they say..........to be basically "in your backyard" is terrible. I agree with Journey, try not to look for his car, try not to think about it at all if you can. He probably met the OW while at your house! He is a scumbag and is dead inside as he said. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones, you got away! Hang in there and stay focused.

#5 Jul 23 - 6AM

Cgrl

The new toy

They all do this- the narc handbook, lesson two- tell her you need to "find yourself". You need to be " on your own" then move in with your new supply within ten days. It will leave her shaking, disoriented and full of low self worth. She will be at your mercy until you " decide" to contact her to throw her a crumb. She will forget every bad thing you said and did to her and welcome you with open arms because now you have "picked" her AGAIN to shit on. She will be eternally happy and subservient to you- do anything for you UNTIL that three or four months are over- which gives you ample time to lock in new supply- then abandon her again. Honey- it's all a facade. He is not happy "with" her. She is doing something FOR him right now. That's all it is. Don't worry about her. Don't worry about his happiness because he is not happy. He has no idea what that is- if he knew happiness, none of this would be going on and he would be with you- or his ex wife. He is a shitbag. Let the two turds float in the bowl and flush. He has given you the chance to have a great life. Life with him would have been shit. They don't change. If he was going to change he would have done it all ready. Of course his birthday will be shit. You can't satisfy these guys. Her friends will see right through him and start asking her where the he'll did you find him- friends see the crap we don't. Don't worry. She is not getting or is about to get anything you and the ex didn't get.

#6 Jul 23 - 3AM

fooled no longer

The more I read, and the more

The more I read, and the more I see that we all go through the same things at the hands of these POS s the more I realise theres no hope and we just have to celebrate that we got a get outa jail card and can start a new start. MY goodness they are terminal turds!

#7 Jul 23 - 2AM

Littleone

Ugh he's revolting. He was

Ugh he's revolting. He was right tho that he's ugly inside and angry at women- that's true. He probably has a deep seated hatred for women- now the ow gets him. Lucky her haha He's never truly happy Hun- it's all superficial.

#8 Jul 23 - 2AM

Journey

What a jerk! So sorry to hear

What a jerk! So sorry to hear about this. He is a narc and isn't really happy below the surface - it just doesn't happen and I think you know that! BTW, my exN told me he didn't want to be in a relationship and had to leave to be on his own just like yours did, then went directly into another relationship. They are liars and cowards. I hope you don't find out who she is or where she lives. It will be better for you to have no idea. I know it's hard, but try to ignore the urge to look for his car or to find out who or where she is. The obsessive thoughts are less, the less we know. ((hugs))

Journey on...

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